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I left my h because he is emotionally abusive and has a bad temper.He is still the father of my children, though. I have my 13 yr olddaughter and 12 yr.old son on mon. thurs. and every other weekend. H gets them tues &wed, evry other we. Its equal! Weve been separated 2 months. I moved out.I will have my own place by May then I will file. H is very manipulating, plays games w/me, immature.My d is defensive of H and wants to please him no matter if right or wrong. I think H is a narcissist(only he has had the same job for 12 years).My s is glad I moved out. He was affected by his dad more than my d.I want to be fair but I dont want to lose my d because she is old enough to decide but my h is so manipulative. He is giving empty promises to buy her clothes then takes it back cause he has no money cause" mom left me w/ all the bills" I dont want my H to influence my daughters feelings of who she is w/ more not to mention her emotional well being. H questions her about what happens on my time w/ her. H has accused me of dating someone and gets mad when I spend money on my kids. Its an impossible situation. I lived w/ h for 13&1/2 years. I dont want to take his kids away but I dont want them to ruined by his destructive behavior and words. I have prayed for h and my chidren. I am going to divorcecare, group therapy at aware and bible study groups.
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I would say get those kids into counseling. They need a neutral party to be there for them and help them to make their own uninfluenced decisions. Mine are only 8 but are in counseling. Even at 8 they need to be able to form their own opinions so later on I am not blamed or their dad blamed for how they feel about either one of us or ow.... That is what I would do. mlhb good luck.
God first, family second, and all else will fall into place.
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although my situation is totally different - i wasn't abusive nor was my stbx, when i walked into my lawyer's office i said "things have gotten so bad at home that for me to be the best father i can to my daughter i need to get a divorce."
do what's best for your kids. counseling - sure. but use every paternal instinct you have to guard them and provide for them.
good luck.
I wish I could say something classy and inspirational, but that just wouldn't be (my) style.
Pain heals. Chicks dig scars. Glory... lasts forever.
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I agree with gekko, protect, provide, love them... I would also add be honest with them. always be honest. mlhb
God first, family second, and all else will fall into place.
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