I have been married for 13&1/2 yrs. to a verbally abusive/ bad tempered woman hater. I have 2 children(13 yr girl, 12 yr boy)We moved out 2 months ago. Right now the custody is equal. The kids seem okay w/ that but I am starting to regret them being w/ my h that much. He plays games w/me, he drills my D for info. He tells her he has no money to buy her new clothes cuz"Mom left me w/ all the bills." I am atending divorcecare, group therapy thru aware(shelter for domestic violence),church and a small group bible study. I will be moving into my own place in May then I will file for divorce. My h is very full of pride, he's manipulating, he blames me for "leaving him", he has always been suspicious and dillusional w/ me and my kids about things we would never do or think. I have never given him reason not to trust me. He was controlling and a neat freak. He put us in a lot of unnecessary debt, bad financial choices then blamed me for it all. I know I did the right thing for us by moving out. I just want to do what is right for my children also. My h is controlling w/ my kids too and right now he on a mission to hurt me and spite me in evry way possible(esp. concerning our kids).I want to protect myself and my kids from his garbage but I dont want to take his kids away either. I have been so giving thru all of this. I made sure the kids can see him equally, I moved out of our house, he can have it. I am trying to get into a subsidized rent program so he wont have to pay child support because he does have so many bills. I dont even know if I am asking anything. I just want to know if anyone else has been thru this kind of man. I also suspect that he is a narciciss and or bipolar. He has held the same job for 12 years though.