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Melody, thanks for your support. I have 2 kids with my W. I have to be going for now, but I am sure I will return at a later time. Thanks again
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J, do you see that it is not in the best interest of your children for men to be staying at your home? Your kids have to be protected from this and it is a boundary that I would ENFORCE.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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J,
A fellow soldier here who has gone thru EXACTLY what you are going thru.
First off... a few questions:
Rank:
How long in service:
MOS:
Okay, those were just so I knwo who I am dealing with here. I am a retired infantry first sergeant. i was deployed to Bosnia in September 2001 when my wife got involved in her affair. I know how this feels. How being away while all of this is going on eats at you.
So, lets talk this thing thru. Let's come up with a plan, on the same scale of military plans that we make, in order to fight this war.
And make no mistake...this is a war!!
So far, you have not been fighting this war correctly. As you know in our training, sometimes the most obvious choice is NOT the right choice. You gotta think this thru...each step. You gotta get smart and study up about marriage, affairs, divorce. A lot of great stuff on this website!! A lot of great advice here from those that have been there.
So, let's get started.
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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So another day has come and gone (almost).
We fought again over the issue of her friend.
W is currently out because she needed some time.
I don't want it to end this way.
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What did she need some time for? J, what was your discussion about? What happened?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I guess you need the hard proof. Please start the snooping, You will lose her for sure if you let her continue this. Now she denies and you too argue, then she will start bulding defenses to justify her actions and after she convinced herself she had the right to do it... she'll tell you she dont love you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />((
d-Day- jan2006
Me 38, WH, 36
Children-8 and 10
status: slow, slow, recovery...
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J,
Did you see my post?
In His arms.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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