About a month or so ago, we were awaken by the sound of a helicopter landing in the field behind our house. Turns out it was a life-flight helicopter and the streets were blocked with ambulances and police cars. For a couple weeks I never knew what happened until my neighbor told me.

Well, tonight, my daughter told us that she knew what happened. The story, as she tells it is 100% accurate, and this is what she said. She told us that the lifeflight airlifted a man who was stabbed in the middle of the street behind our house. All this happened at 7:30am in front of a school bus full of kids.

Anyway, seems the man was caught cheating on his wife and when confronted, he started hitting her. This woman was a fairly good sized lady and she had enoough so she took after him with a butcher knife. She cut him twice in the legs and then made a mad slash across his stomach.

The cut was perfect and he collapsed in the middle of the road and actually spilled out on the street. I watched my WW's face as my DD told the story, it was ashen. We have not told the kids yet what has happened in our marriage.

Now, my innocent little 10yo DD knows that one of the consequences, at least for that family, was a horrible stabbing that ended up with the mother in jail, and the father in jail after he recovers from his wounds.

I sincerely hope this is an eye opener for my wife on just how smart kids really are and how much they actually know.


FN

Wow. Imagine someone trying to 'hide' the truth from those chlidren. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Rage....anger.... hard emotions to control. Sad that it happpened in front of the children.....any children for that matter.

L.

Dangit Orchid, how come I never saw your Reverse Babble thread earlier? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Many of those would have come in handy somewhere over the past four or five months.


FN

Oh kids get it, I still remember watching my mom drive away from her second husband. I knew something was horribly wrong, but she wouldn't talk about it. Funny part is, she still won't. I ask her what was going on that day and she still changes the subject.

A woman from my town poured scalding coffee into her Hs lap when he told her at breakfast. She was arrested for domestic assault....

We have not told the kids yet what has happened in our marriage

Do you plan to? I swear right now I will take this to my grave.

I do plan on it, especially after this. I had started a thread last week asking about it and it took on a life of it's own with an argument about whether or not to do it. Here's the link - http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=2#2982027

FN

Thanks for the link. This has caused so much pain in our lives but it is over and I do believe he will not do it again. I wish he had known what he has the power to tell our children someday..."its not worth it". I just dont see the benefit to it right now.
Good Luck with everything
HF

Affairs have a way of creeping into every part of our lives. FWH actually believed that it would be possible to do his thing and that it would have no impact on the rest of his life. Boy was he surprized.

My two grown daughters have their own kind of wounds from FWH's A even tho they don't know any of the details. They know it happened, they know I was devastated, they know FWH was sorry.

They will never forget it happened. Just this weekend DD and her DH had their civil marriage blessed in a church service. FWH couldn't even look at me as they were speaking their vows. Other DD did make eye contact with me and I knew she was thinking about betrayal of vows.

Last night there was a small trailer on TV for some feature piece on infidelity and opportunities to cheat via the internet. We were all sitting around watching and conversation just stopped dead....you could have heard a pin drop. Everyone in the room was uncomfortable.

Another lasting affect of infidelity.

Who

Yeah, it seems that everything on tv or in the movies now sets the mind off about infidelity. We rented the Weather Man the other night. I like Nicolas Cage, thought it would be cool. After it was over I felt dirty. I can actually imagine someone walking into their bedroom and shooting themselves after watching that movie.

It's odd, how many things like that my WW gravitates to. She can't see it, so of course, she goes out and buys Spanglish, Weather Man, Walk the Line etc. ALL movies about infidelity and divorce.

I pray that someday I can actually sell one of my screenplays and bring some sanity back to it all.


FN

Well,.....it's never 2 late! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

L.

T/J - Fourth Nail - would you mind sending me an email - I have a question for you.

williams at smartchat dot net dot au

(((((WhoMe)))))

Perhaps "making lemonade out of lemons" is in order.

The church wedding might be just time or "reason" to talk with your children about sin and forgiveness, the God-given roles of Husbands and Wives, and that we are all capable of sinning when we take our eyes off of Christ.

It is, after all, WHY Jesus surrendered all FOR us.

That is also part of the promise of Romans 8:28.

God bless and continue to comfort you and heal your marriage.

Hey Kahuna, shot over.


FN