Have been busy working all I can. Also trying to keep on top of all the info for the D.

WH finally got served the D papers on March 22. He now has a lawyer of his own.

I didn't find out about WH being served until DS told me that WH called him and told him about it...that he was going to put me out in the street...take me down......and screw me over.

I relayed this info to my lawyer. She said "He will screw you over, over my dead body." I LOVE HER. SHE'S A TIGER!!!

All these things WH should not be telling our children no matter how old they are. He just keeps dragging them into the middle. Now he is trying to win them over to "his side". How childish.

For some reason, WH is actually HATING me......the main reason being that he no longer has control over me. Why does this happen?

You would think I was the one who had cheated for 5 years!!!

And he is even trying to make it look like I have also cheated with comments (in a note he left in the garage) like "I heard about the 'guy' you met sometime ago".

Oh well, he told me if he couldn't love me, he was going to hate me. I replied to that comment with "Whatever gets you thru the night".

I think his mind is truly twisted. Now he is trying to walk away with all he can get that is paid for, and leave me everything with debt attached to it.

I honestly don't care what he does. I have not seen or spoken to him for 2 months. Sometimes it gets a little lonely, but all the lonliness in the world would not compel me to take him back.

I am so much better off.

I've been out with some friends, done things with my kids, and am excitedly awaiting a grandchild in September!!!!

I'm also planning to go to California to visit my family. I haven't seen any of them for 3 years (since my mom died).

No matter what happens with the D, things are looking up for me!

Kathy

Unmoved,

The WS is angry? Then u r on the right track. He is dragging his children into it? Tell the lawyer. That will sound good in court.

WS: Your honor, my children don't want this D. It's my W's fault.

BS' Lawyer: Your honor, the H/father has turned into a WS, the D is to protect the family. The WS has not only burdened his children with his Ws problems but also made verbal threats of throwing the family on the street, taking all paid for items and leaving the BS and family saddled with all the family debit.

Judge: Let's recess.... I have a headache.

UnMoved,

It was so good to see your post, tonight! You are a true inspiration. And I need that, right now.

My situation as taken a turn. I'm no longer engaged. My X-fiancee and I have split, due to some circumstances concerning our long distance relationship. It's just too difficult.

I am absolutely CRUSHED! It was mutual, but still very heartbreaking. I would very much love to be "UnMoved" right now!

There are a few other reasons why our split was probably for the better, (I won't get into), but I am SOOO sad! This hurts SOOO much! Feels like a death.

Sorry to rattle all of this off to you, I know this is your thread, and I would just like to say, that I am VERY happy to see that you are still plugging away at life, and continuing to be so strong! I very much admire this strength in you!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Take Care, and keep us posted!!

Jennifer

Hi Orchid and Jennifer.....

My computer has been acting up and making strange noises, so I haven't been able to reply.

Orchid....I don't understand what you mean about being on track with WH being angry. Will he never act like a human being toward me? I understand why he is angry.....he had to get off the fence. I cut it from beneath him when I said "NO MORE".

Now, he's just trying to "screw me over" in his own words. Haven't I been "screwed over" enough?

Jennifer, I have read your thread. I really do feel for you. Hope you are feeling stronger and better now. Things don't always work out the way we wish them too. But that doesn't make them hurt any less.

And, yes, it does feel like death. But you and I both know from experience that - with time - we do get over it.

My WH is now threatening to press charges against me for forging his signature on our tax return. Something I have done for 33 years.....with his blessing because he just couldn't be bothered.

I don't know, but if he wants to get down and dirty, there are some legal things I can bring against him that won't make him very happy, and that would also include his OW.

I would like to know what to do to make this insanity stop!

If he wants to hate me, well, that's fine. Like I said before, whatever gets him thru the night.

I just don't understand his thinking.....yes, I guess I do. He is an alien. He is crazy. And he is doing whatever he can - in his mind to make himself feel justified.

WHATEVER!!!!!

Orchid....you are the RB guru......what are your thoughts?

Anyway, I plug along. Still UnMoved.

Kathy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Orchid: Don't expect the WS to act like any being from this planet. That's why we call then aliens from the mothership. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> When he learns that being a WS isn't healthy nor does it make him happy and he decides to turn his life back to this planet, then maybe then he w/b nice to you.

For now, don't hold your breathe. Learn to breathe..... in with the good air....out with the bad..... 1, 2, 3..... deep cleansing breathes but don't hyperventilate. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: Never enough for the WS. That's why the BS has to get tough and with a plan. U want one?


Orchid: Remember, the WS wasn't around all those other years. So when he threatens, tell him you have already informed the IRS and they are looking for him. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />


Orchid: Don't threaten to do this, when u r ready, just do it. Threatening warns the wicked. Gives them the opportunity to use it against you.


Orchid: When your mind and heart sync up, you will get your sanity back. Pray for a clear mind, calm heart and lots of patience.


Orchid: Ok, do you really mean this?


Orchid: Yes.

Now what is your personal recovery plan? Identify your boundaries yet? Ready to implement them?

L.

Hello, UnMoved. I'm doing just a slight bit better. I think some of the shock is wearing off, with my situation. This is the longest we have ever gone without talking, but I guess it's good for both of us.

I'm sorry your STBXH is being such the turd that he is to you! Just act like this doesn't bother you in the least! Let your screen name, UNMOVED, just shine all around you! I know this will probably make him even more angry, but eventually, he will have to give up! Hate takes ALOT of energy, and I would think that pretty soon, he will have finally worn his little self out with all of this!

I guess the answer to most things, is time! Isn't it fascinating, how such a thing as "time" can cover SO many areas of life? I guess that's what life is, time. And it's up to US to choose how to use it!

Good Luck, and keep us posted!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Take Care...

Jennifer