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Max - why do you seem to be attacking S&C?
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S&C,
I am glad that you are avoiding running into the OM. Can you tell me when the last time was that you talked to the OM? I'm trying to understand the timeframe on your situation.
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Last week you wrote: " Two weeks ago he asked me to meet him to "seal the deal", meaning "closure". We have not been together in months. "
Did you and OM have a sexual meeting that day???
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MadMax -
In my last post I said "i'm an open book - ask away".
So, what would you like to know?
"It's the simple things in life, like the kids at home and a loving wife, that you miss the most when you lose control. Everything that you love starts to disappear..."
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I'm not.
Just really , really curious.
Max
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We posted at the same time s and c.
My question is above your last post.
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No seal the deal was end all contact. Haven't seen him (other than passing).
Let me explain....there was NO love involved here. It was all about a sexual attraction. If anyone has more feelings it was ME not XOM. He told me a long time ago "D - your a nice distraction!"
What is amazing to me is that I put my family through this HE// for THAT!
My goal now is to help my H and to figure out why I did this to begin with....That is where a MC comes in.
"It's the simple things in life, like the kids at home and a loving wife, that you miss the most when you lose control. Everything that you love starts to disappear..."
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Celt - Sorry - no we have not been intimate since, I believe, November.
There was never any intercourse....sick, sick, sick. It was OS on him.
Ugh - gross.
"It's the simple things in life, like the kids at home and a loving wife, that you miss the most when you lose control. Everything that you love starts to disappear..."
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MADMAX - Talk to me, what's up?
What do you want to know....are you a WS or a BS?
I'm not trying to give advice and I apologize if you've taken it that way. I'm just writing thoughts that are in my mind and sharing about me.
"It's the simple things in life, like the kids at home and a loving wife, that you miss the most when you lose control. Everything that you love starts to disappear..."
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I really don't need to know anything.
Just curious.
What is it that motivates you?
In other word'sSSSS
What's wrong here?
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It is still not clear. I thought you said you met
OM that day for 'closure'? Did you?
Was OM the one that wanted to end all contact?
Did OM suddenly get a conscience?
Or was he fearful of his W finding out?
There is a lot of your story you haven't told.
We are all ears.
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You're "on top of the world" so soon after the end of the A? Wow. I was feeling like total %*$&#@! for what I did to my H. He was having a pretty rough time, and watching that, there was no way I could feel on top of the world. Not even close.
But lots of hard work, MC, IC for me, and better communication can do so much.
You are just starting your journey and you might want to think about holding on for the roller-coaster ride. Good on you for coming clean and putting NC in place. Now the real work begins.
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Yo Max -
What was your name last time you were here and why have a new one?
Also, what's your agenda?
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Madmax - my motivation is God, my H, and my 2 DDs.
Celt - Yes, we met for closure..said our goodbyes. There was not sexual contact in any way.
Yes, OM wanted and needed to. Kept saying his dead son was looking down from Heaven and watching him. And yes he was always fearful that his W would find out.
Read my past posts.....it's all there.
I am at work and cannot re-create the entire story. After reading my original posts, ask any questions and I will answer.
Have to run, bosses laptop, passport and checkbook were stolen out of his truck last night!!!!
I hope everyone has a great day.
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GBH - Let me make something a bit more clear. I am on top of the world ONLY because God is showing me his light and hope for my M.
I am sick when I think about what I have done - I am NOT proud. I am literally sick.
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Yo celt - what's not clear to me is your story.
I've tried to find it so as to better understand your posts but i can't find much history at all. Please direct me to it, OK?
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My last name was madmax
and my agenda?
Do I NEED ONE?
Max.
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S&D, I commend you for realizing what is important. My WW is only thinking about herself. She sees a good man in front of her, but is trying to do everything she can to justify hurting me. I hate that I am feeling like I almost have to let go of everything, let whatever happen, happen and hope she comes running back. What a sick thought. Good luck with your recovery. It will be hard, but it will be worth it.
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Worth a try - how do I send you a private note???? Very important.
"It's the simple things in life, like the kids at home and a loving wife, that you miss the most when you lose control. Everything that you love starts to disappear..."
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Hon - we don't have pm set up here. Too much emotional flotsam and jetsam running rampant.
>GBH - Let me make something a bit more clear. I am on top of the world ONLY because God is showing me his light and hope for my M.
Sound very much like the WOokie. ((((S&C67)))))
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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