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saenz,
It's good to know there are still people out there like us. I wonder how many of us exist...maybe about 10%?? I just ran into MIL about 10 minutes ago. You can read the story on my other thread..."success stories to filing for divorce. I'm lost. I need help." (something to that effect.) I don't know the exact name. Let me know what you think of it.
I don't have much time now, but I will read more of your posts when I have time.
--CO
BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
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i've read some of it. just remember keep ya head up.
merrily, merrily, merrily, life is.....
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I am a FWW - and I can tell you it's PURE SELFISHNESS.
"It's the simple things in life, like the kids at home and a loving wife, that you miss the most when you lose control. Everything that you love starts to disappear..."
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I am a FWW - and I can tell you it's PURE SELFISHNESS. Are you saying, then, you didn't feel any guilt at all, you didn't even think about it? Are you still with your H? -CO
BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
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In the beginning I believe my FWH felt justified and satisfied even tho he would never admit it. After a couple of months, OW became clingy and demanding and the affair began to be more trouble than it was worth. He began to feel smothered and wanted out.
In truth, I am not sure that he feels any real guilt even now no matter what he says. I think what he feels is shame that he let OW manipulate him into continuing the affair for many months after he wanted to and tried to end it. He was a coward, she knew it, he knew it and I know it.
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
D-Day: 12/02/03
Recovered
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