ok, so at the risk of being thrown off of the boards (haha) gekko and I have been chatting and actually exchanged photos and numbers...

He has found that I am his perfect match and we will be getting married next weekend. Who wants to come? LOL

ok,ok hahaha

we have been chatting though.He is a darn good catch for the right lady... but I know, this is not a dating sight. But it is an after divorce dating forum... ;-) maybe someday 2 divorced mbers should hook up. They would probably have a great relationship! mlhb

she's blonde, i may need something smarter before i marry again.

ok, i got a ring, but it was cubic zirconian.

you may need something smarter huh? that's it, give back the zirconia ring... I might be able to put it back in the plastic ball and shove it back into the toy machine I got it from.. but I will still be out the quarter! lol

sorry everyone, the wedding is now off. mlhb

well you're a reader and a writer. there's always clairol.

can we do one of those drive thru vegas things with elvis and marilyn?

well, I am naturally blonde so....

I guess you are saying you want to keep the ring now? haha

and, in vegas only if an alien can be there too...

actually, seriously, at least for a second here, I have always thought IF I married again it would be fun just to do the vegas thing. But than again, I might just opt to live in sin.. hehe mlhb

so you're a naughty snob?

only if we can do what britney spears did and be married for like 55 hours.

Forgive me if I am missing something, but if this is the case, I would suggest that your flirting/chatting might be more suited to be done in private, because I don't see how it contributes to the board in general.

Don't mean to be a wet blanket, but I just don't see why you post to each other on a general forum if you already have each other's contact info.

AGG

no offense taken... I think in any posts where we have posted (except this one where we are just joking around) we have some pretty valid input. This thread is really nothing to be taken too seriously, we were just trying to lighten up the mood a bit. No flirting, just making friends. Any phone conversations we have pretty much just concern getting through divorce, just like the reason we are on this forum. Just trying to make a few laughs is all... nothing serious. mlhb

I'm fairly sure this has already happened ... a few times ... although not necessarily condoned.

if 2 people are divorced, and on the dating forum, not that it is a singles site, but what is the big deal if they did hook up? Why wouldn't it be condoned? they're divorced! Not trying to bait anyone or cause an issue, just curious what the big deal would be. mlhb

i guess i can tell hot therapist i'm cured. i'm not a nice guy after all.

lol

I thought you weren't divorced yet?

AGG

I read gekko's bio, divorce isn't finalized, signed up at MB's 5 days ago, has a dating thread and the two of you are on the phone to support each other? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

And on Day 2, mlhb said:


Yikes... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Gekko, you're a pretty funny guy....I've found your posts entertaining <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

AGG does tend to be a bit of a wet blanket <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />, but I think what he and everyone here are saying is, that you and mlhb are treading dangerous territory, but I have a feeling you both know that....your both grown ups, do what you will, but try not to give us all a reason to say, "told you so!".... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Like you mentioned in your other post, even though you may have wanted out of your marriage, you still have to grieve and process it and all the inherent issues that come w/ it.....vulnerability included.......

Just my .02

DW

Oooohhh looky here....check out these wise words gekko... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Moi?? A wet blanket? When was the last time I was a wet blanket? OK, OK, scratch that - when was the last time I was a wet blanket and wasn't right about my concerns?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

AGG

oh my oh wow, oh wow oh my... certainly did not mean to ruffle feathers here.

gekko and I are getting to be friends, talking here as we would on the phone. No dating, haven't set up dating, nothing like that. We live a zillion miles away from eachother. I do not see the big deal of a man and a woman being friends. We are no longer in our marital situations whether or not our divorces are final or not. I have not lived with my husband for going on a year now and gekko has not lived with his wife for going on 6 months. I believe we are on this particular board because we both feel ready to start meeting and dating people. I am legally separated and thus can legally date. My legal sep papers very clearly state that h and I can now live our lives as though we were not married. We do not have a d yet because he is in iraq and we cannot finish one up until he gets back. I am not ready for anything serious but am certainly ready to start going out. From my conversations with gekko and from what he has posted here, yes, he is in counseling, but not because he wants his wife back. I think he is on the same page as me here, ready to start just going out and make new friends.

I would agree we might be treading on fire here if we actually lived anywhere near eachother and were like meeting in person and going to date or something. But that is not the case at all. Just making some new friends. I offered an ear and my email address to him because I thought he might be more comfortable asking some things about the board that way and he had told me his private message button was not working for some reason. So I offered an email. I know many of us, as betrayed spouses, get suspicious immediately, but there is nothing to be suspicious about. As someone stated, we are grown adults and just trying to have a laugh or two as we start new lives.

ok, enuff of my soapbox blah blah blah... I like to keep things light and fun darn it all! this thread was not meant to offend anyone. So maybe we should totally end the thread here so as not to cause a problem.

I will end with this though. If I, as an mb person, did happend to meet another mb person, and found a connection, and way in the future ended up with that person, I would hope my fellow mb friends here would be happy for me and other person. In the end, if our marriages are completely through, aren't we here to be happy when one or two of us find happiness with a new person? Why would it matter where we met that person? If we are on the dating/relationship board, we are here because are marriages are done, over, dead and not resurrecting. That is just my feeling and opinion.

Now let's all just breathe, smile, and start a new thread about something else! this one is now officially done! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Just for the record, my initial question on this thread was not whether you two were available for dating, but rather why you decided to have an open thread between just the two of you, instead of simply doing it in private. I saw nothing of general interest on the thread, forgive me if I was wrong.

Only after you replied with "what's wrong with two divorced people doing this?" did the fact that neither of you is actually divorced come up.


The reason that the private message button is not working is to reduce the temptation of two vulnerable people in failing marriages to reach out to each other for too easy a support. Ahem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

ok AGG, point taken... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

the concerns are dooly noted and appreciated..
next thread please...
(chuckle)
mlhb