Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 83
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 83 |
We've met w/our MC once and our 2nd appt is tonight. We like him (so far) and he is Christian, pro-marriage and is familiar and supportive of MB principles.
He charges $100 per session. We can somewhat afford this for a few months, but it obviously will put a strain on our finances which is one of our issues.
Should we make a gamble to find a new, free (or cheaper) counselor or stick it out w/someone we already feel good about, but will keep us from getting ahead in our finances?
BW 32
FWH 32
3 DC 5, 4, and 2
M 1996
PA 3/15 and 3/21/06
D-day 3/31/06
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 2,621
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 2,621 |
Divorce would be a whole lot more expensive, don't you think?
Use an MC that works. You don't have to like him/her.
Budget and prioritise.
With prayers,
"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan
"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky
WS: They are who they are.
When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
Thats a moray ~DS
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 221
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 221 |
I would stay with this counselor. You cannot put a pricetag on successful recovery. We spent about $3000 in our year of counseling and it was beyond worth the sacrifices we had to make. We also took on a car payment when my husband traded in his fully paid for truck (the scene for a lot of the A)for an untainted vehicle. Again, worth the sacrifice. Money is not everything, to be sure, don't let it be a driving force in decision making for your recovery.
Incidently, our counselor gave us a $10 discount because we faithfully went every week. We went back to the full price when we felt we were ready to go every other week after a few months. Maybe you could ask your counselor about this and see if she/he is willing to give you a small discount if you are coming every week.
Blessings
Glad
BW-34
FWH-35
Married 12yrs
4 children
DD 8
DD 6
DD 4
DD 2
d-day 7/03
Beautiful Recovery
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 323
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Mar 2006
Posts: 323 |
talk to your therapist...if they write it up as "stress" related type issues and not just marriage counselling...your insurance may pick it up or atleast most of it....
all i paid is my $20.00 co-pay.
just a thought
"If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask?" (Chris Rock)
"Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa)
"We just wanna be free to ride our machines and not get hassled by the Man!" (Easy Rider)
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 83
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 83 |
Oh Glad! Thank you for posting to my question. I read your posts to Renee and was so encouraged that I looked up all your posts. You are my hero and I would feel honored if you looked at my other 2 threads and gave me some input. They are "Found out on Fri morning..." on JFO http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=0#2981924and "One week since D-day" on GQII http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...rue#Post2985137I've considered asking my H to sell his truck (on d-day I thought about setting it on fire). I did ask him to have it detailed and he said he would but hasn't. I don't ever want me or my children in it again. It is a work truck so it would be difficult to get rid of, but still...
BW 32
FWH 32
3 DC 5, 4, and 2
M 1996
PA 3/15 and 3/21/06
D-day 3/31/06
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
1,138
guests, and
56
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,032
| |
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
