Well,

Another episode of the divorce logs....We got out of school this afternoon for 3 days of spring break. Bimbo and Jimbo were supposed to come and pick up the kids for vacation. My eighth grader refused to go...she wrote him and told him that over a week ago. Their big Easter "adventure" is to load up he and his wife's furniture from storage, rent a U-Haul and drive with the kids to their probably new house in Florida. Sounds like fun, RIGHT?? Not....anyway...he agreed to let my daughter stay home without a fight...because he can't fit bimbo and Jimbo and my son and daughter in the front seat of a U-haul.

Next scene. He never calls and tells me their plans. He is supposed to pick up the kids at 4...my son finally calls him at 7:30 and asks when they are coming. He said that they would be here from KC at 9:30. He then asked again if my daughter was going to go. She had already told him she wasn't. 8:15 he calls my son again and says they are almost ready to start their new adventure. They still had to load a car into the van...and they decided to do that in the morning. So, he says they will be in our town in 15 minutes to pick up my son.

They call and say they are outside my home and to send my son out. I do that with his suitcase. Next thing I hear is the garage door opening, and I look out the window and my son is riding off on his bike. Jimbo and bimbo are walking into my crazy neighbor's house (this man and his son have been accused and actually did kill 5 neighborhood cats in a grotesque manner.) He is wacko...but he also flew with Jimbo at one time. The neighbors can't stand this man..and the schools are watching his son for weird behavior.

Anyway...it turns out that bimbo and Jimbo are staying with the crazy neighbors across the street from me. (The only reason I can think of for them to do this is to spite me.) My son is left to play outside with the neighborhood kids. I hear them playing until 10:30...when I called my son in.I told him they were getting too loud...and it was too late for that. When he came in, he had fallen off his bike and scratched up both knees, his elbow and hand. I told him to jump in the shower and then we would clean up the wounds.

He got jammies on, and we went upstairs and were finding bandaids...when my ex comes over and repeatedly pounds on the door and ringing the doorbell. At this time it is five to 11. He was just then looking for my son. He had a really ugly look on his face--demanding Kyle. I told him that he had fallen on his bike and I was trying to get him bandaged up. He said "can I talk to him". I called for him and he came down in his pajamas. Jimbo asked him what he wanted to do. (Before this my son told me that I had better call his dad and tell him that he was going to stay over here...because he was afraid that his father would be mad at him. He also told me that he didn't want to stay with the crazy people " I told him at that time not to worry about it. My son then told his dad that he wanted to stay with me at his house.

I hate this....I hate dealing with this man. It is always a fiasco....why didn't he pick my son up and leave???? If he is so anxious to see the kids...why is he over drinking and visiting...instead of being with my son? Why would you flaunt bimbo infront of me over and over again.

I have to admit tho....once my son is sleeping soundly in his bed...I don't give a ***t what he is doing. But when I thought my son would be across the street with bimbo and Jimbo and crazies...that about sent me over the edge. Why does this keep happening over and over again. Why does God allow this to happen? Who in their right mind would do this to their family. There is always turmoil when he is around. I hate it. I hate the thought that he will be driving with my x who obviously is still drinking, has road rage....and is still rationalizing his behavior.

At our court hearing in Dec., he was ordered to attend an alcohol and drug abuse program, an anger management program and provide me with the quick claim deed for my house. He hasn't taken the classes, he refused to give me the quick claim deed, and his is back to not paying his bills.

Will he ever get what is coming to him? He doesn't care about the kids. He hasn't seen 3 of them since last summer. And he blew my son off tonight. He is all talk when it comes to the kids.

I guess this is a long enough vent....by why can 1 individual make life a living **** for everyone?

My blood pressure is definitely up tonight. I am so tired of this. Pat

So, he is in contempt of court about the quit claim deed? And the classes?

Yes, he is. And I am taking recommendations for a new lawyer. I think I will have to go to the city for one. I am keeping my ears open for someone who is good and has integrity and drive.
The one I had doesn't want to deal with this anymore. She wrote me a nice letter thanking me for letting her represent me and the kids. She didn't do much for us.

I am going to call her office tomorrow and also write his attorney a letter stating that the quick claim deed has never been given to me (it was supposed to be here 30 days after the trial. He had 90 days to complete the classes and send proof that he had attended them. No one has received anything yet.

Why don't you send the letters by certified mail w/ receipt requested - you will have proof they were received?

Hey girl!

well we're still in same timeline.

the attack of the aliens and the wistresses! gross huh?

document...get a bulldog lawyer...and send always certified mail if you have a doubt.

excellent suggestion to the previous poster who suggested it!

I am sorry for your continued pain. but girl, I totally understand how ya feel. give the kids a big hug from me.

so good to know you're alive and still have the energy to keep fighting the good fight...I've almost given in many times, then I see my ds, and I suck up enough energy to keep on keepin' on when having to deal with these horrid people...

but gotta keep praying for our xws. they really need it.

Dear Peachy and Cinderella,

Thank you for your posts. I will send those letters registered mail...great idea...will get them in the mail tomorrow.

My ex just left me a bitter email. I left a message on his cell phone to give to my son wishing him a Happy Easter and letting him know what we were doing around here. I was chattie...and LONG <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> !!! because he wouldn't answer his cell phone. He wrote back and told me that my son was not interested in anything I had to say...right...anyway...he is flying home tomorrow...and of course I have to drive to the airport to pick him up.

He has to pay me for mileage tho. We are going to make a day of it...and try to get back here in time to make my class tomorrow night.

We had a great Easter. Went to my daughter's dining out last night and then spent the day with my other three children here...eating, decorating eggs...just relaxing together. It was fun.

I hope you all had a relaxing Easter too. Thanks again Pat