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Went on WH e-mail he had with OW and sent a message posing as him....seeing if she will respond. Why did i do that? I am setting him up for her to contact him. ARRRRGGGGGHhhh
Stupid, stupid stupid
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Did you tell her that "you" have VD? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
OK, what did you really say?
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LOL
no i just said...
been thinking about you...are you okay?
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Yea, that was stupid.
If you can intercept a reply before he sees it, maybe that would be smart.
But the 4.0 right thing to do would be to fess up to your H about what you did - unless he's still actively engaged in the affair. If the affair is still hot, almost anything goes, IMHO, for efforts to upset it. In that case, "been thinking about you...are you okay?" isn't NEARLY as effective as asking about VD.
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did you do it because you were worried that there is still contact between them?
why didn't you set up a dummy account and send one to him from "her" and see how he responded?
I've thought about doing something like that - not really sure what it would accomplish -
good luck.
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So does that mean that if the A is back on (her H was here posting for a while as a FWH), that she gets to send another email about the VD? Pleeeeeez??? Maybe just, "Have you been, um, itching down there lately? No, just wondering, no particular reason..."
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This was just an online EA. (the one after PA #1, different girl) H has not looked at this site since i found out about it, i have been keeping pretty close watch on it...not that he couldnt find other ways to contact her if he wanted
I did ask her when i first found out if she plans on continuing contact with my H and she never responded...i think if she responds i will come out and say...
I guess this answers my question about continuing contact.
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Why did i do it? Well i have to say just my stupid obbsessing over it all and i had thought about it for a long time but never hit the send button....today i did. I am thinking that she will not respond but we will see.
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at least maybe ask her how to spell "pustule" and whether when writing a note to a doctor he should refer to it as his Johnson or pen is.
Good luck, Tiger
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did you do it because you were worried that there is still contact between them?
why didn't you set up a dummy account and send one to him from "her" and see how he responded?
I've thought about doing something like that - not really sure what it would accomplish -
good luck. !!! Especially with a fresh FWS...YOU ARE DEALING WITH AN ADDICT!!! Just as you would never give a shot of whiskey to an alcoholic or drugs to a drug addict, you don't dangle the OP in front of a new FWS...Seriously that would be cruel and unusual punishment for ALL parties involved... Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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you guys are making me laugh......
This was not a PA though so it all just wont work any other ideas
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Mrs. - I am not going to do it - I've just thought about it. It would be interesting, however, to see how she responded and if she told me about it.....
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Okay this is the short story...
H had an A with OP#1 1 year ago lasted long distance for 4 months till i found out this was a PA too
while we were in so called recovery he got in contact with OP#1 former best friend (former because OP#1 had an affair with OP#2 boyfriend while OP#2 was having an affair with some other guy, real classy people huh) She is a writer and it started out as just wanting to read her writing....then it got flirty. So this is the OP#2
sometimes i think betrayal #2 even though it was not a PA is harder for me to get over because he should have known better...that while i thought we were working on the marriage he was still in fantasy land.
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Heheh, not a bad idea. I may send the OM an email, posing as my WW asking if he woke up peeing guacamole too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />
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REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!
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OMG she answered
AND is totally bashing me....she said that she heard that i checked into a mental institute...
I am shaking i am so mad
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Quit being mad.
Remember....she's real classy....NOT....
LT - have you told your husband you did this yet?
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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yes and i think that was a bad idea...showed my cards and all
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LT:
How did she know it was you???????
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