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Hi...My husband and I have been married for less than a month (together for over two years, living together for over a year). We have one major blowout fight about every week and a half. It usually starts with a misunderstanding and then we both get pissy at each other and he says that "I don't have a right to be upset." and that "I'm overreacting." I feel like I'm not allowed to have any negative emotions without him immediately telling me that I'm "not allowed to."
I'm tired of being told that I'm not allowed to feel things. He also forceably pours water on me if I start crying. I hate it and I tell him not to do it and he's like "Well, it gets you to stop, doesn't it?"
I don't even know if I can be with him anymore. I've been so stressed lately that I've been uncontrollably shaking whenever I get nervous or stressed.
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Joined: Mar 2006
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OMG! Pouring water on you to make stop crying is thoughtless, cruel and a form of abuse! Shame on him!
Have you two sought counseling?
This may be your only option. There might even be deeper issues.
Hope you two will seek some MC. Please do.
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Joined: Jan 2006
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First thing is that you have to ask God to help you get your emotions under control. My husband use to always make comments about me crying and it used to really hurt me. But I had to start understanding why I was reacting to him the way that I was and what would happen if I didn’t act out of emotion. He is dead wrong for the water thing and I would say that it probably makes you feel pretty degraded. I definitely would seek counseling. You want to tackle these issues early on so that they don’t blossom into bigger issues that you can’t work through.
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Joined: Mar 2006
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try to communicate about what problems that you are having when you are not upset. I really can't talk either my situation is about the same, however I just stop arguing. I say my piece and don't participate in the arguement. It takes two t argue
God's love
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