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Hi 19, Conflict Avoider ~ he is it big time... he would rather pay an incorrect bill then dispute it !! Fortunately, he is not in charge of much finances here...
I have been posting about this since Jan 05. (could not post under old name for unknown reasons) and have done everything possible to *catch* him... I only found this board years after the A had started... and too late to catch alot of easy stuff to catch....
He and her are extremely sneaky about this....
I am stuck in limbo big time !! thanks for responding.
carnation
Me - BS 55
WH/FWH 50
OW 30
Much evidence says that my H was/is
deeply involved in a very long term PA
Prolly will never know much more than that
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carnation - so I assume you have taped your phone, checked cell phone records etc. - easy stuff? put a recorder in the car?
I am no expert, but what about gps in the car? not cheap, but cheaper than the next idea below...
what about a private detective? I know they are expensive - at least you are in charge of the finances -
you've probably already thought of all this - just in case.
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Thanks for the suggestions 19 and replying. Get this --
He is an OTR truck driver... for a big company
he is gone for weeks on end.. when he first started doing this is when I really began to realize what was going on..
so, none of the spying techniques will work.. my only clue would be cell phone and I am pretty sure he uses one of his fuel cards as a calling card (from pay phones)
in fact, just the other day when he was calling me from who knows where, on his cell, it came up on my house caller id as 000 unaviable -- which cingular has no explanation....
So, combined with his sneakiness and I mean sneaky... and tons of opportunity to go anywhere and I do not know....
I can almost always tell just from his moods what he is up to... makes me sick...
oh and him coming home telling me he has a *broken heart* !!! pretty big clue.... guess it is not all fun and games in WS land... actually I would much rather be a BS then live like him....
thanks again... sorry for the TJ, just more BS talking here....
car
Me - BS 55
WH/FWH 50
OW 30
Much evidence says that my H was/is
deeply involved in a very long term PA
Prolly will never know much more than that
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