I've noticed something - and since I'm a girl <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> It's going to be a bit biased in that direction, but I'm sure it goes both ways (so don't get your panties in an bunch just cuz I'm not pc about asking).

If you're totally available, want to date, guys avoid you like the plague, but the minute you're semi-involved they are all over you, asking you out, calling you, etc. Even to the point that single clients are asking. I'm sitting here playing with a very simple birthstone ring - not even an engagement ring, given to me by someone special, and these guys are inviting me to breakfast, lunch, dinner, movies, etc. (Not like I'd have time to go this time of year, but --- they're asking.)

Suddenly they are spectacular at observing a need and filling it. I mentioned in passing that it was too hot to sleep last night, so I just got up and went back to work (lots to do still and the deadline is Monday), my client set up my cooler for me, before he left (no, he's not getting a discount). (Definitely single.)

Better than that even. Last night, a client noticed my tire was low (too low to drive to the station and air it up even) and went home, got his air tank, came back and aired it up for me. (Yup, he's single too.)

I'm sitting here thinking, a year ago, I would have begged for this much attention. Now, it's almost embarrassing.

The lawn care guy, that I do his bookkeeping, is going to put me on his regular schedule to do my yard (no charge) because, it will only take him a few minutes to fertilize, mow and set the water every week. And I do such a great job on his "stuff". (He just happens to be VERY single.)

I'm not even going to "what happened in the grocery store last night". All I'm going to say is, if your divorce judge is single, don't shop at the same store.

Jan

i believe my grocery store posts have been justified with this tesimonial.

i am experiencing the opposite phenomena. when i was married i got nothing, although i wasn't really paying attention. thank goodness.

congratulations on being a dude magnet. good luck.

sj~~

Any job openings???

I'm moving to your town!

Karona

Yeah, actually there is - I'll be leaving in a few weeks (timeline is not set yet). My house will be open, and I'm sure there's a need for someone in the area to do bookkeeping for local companies.

I'll even throw in an old beat up truck I don't know how to move. You can fix it or ebay it, I don't care.

The grocery store offers up a lot of great opportunities, the local laundry facility is run by an older couple who keep tabs on singles who come in, and every old lady at church has a single son/nephew/brother/grandson she wants to marry off.

BTW - I'm not sure these guys qualify as 'dudes' though...

More like members of the 'good ole boy society'... Not sure what I'd call them, however, most of them do own their own business, a vehicle or two, and more than an acre of ground.

If you're not interested in dating, there's something to be said for lawn care, tire repair, and a/c installation in the Spring. I just keep wondering where the heck they were last fall when the skunk got in the heater vent???

Oh yeah, maybe that was the perfume change...?

networking in the laundry facility? brilliant.

so that's my problem... I have my own washer and dryer! darnit.

anyone wanna buy a washer and dryer??
mlhb

Hey Jan,

There's not secret to your success here. Your moving away & now that it may be difficult to have a relationship with you your wicked attractive.

You know, the old too available thing.

Where you headed & are there even more available men there?

Personally, I think it's the cucumber coolness, and the "look." You know, the look you get when you've been... well, you know. Either having it or anticipate getting it or even just teased to distraction.

Also there's the bone theory. Imagine two dogs. You throw two bones, one for each dog. The dogs chase the bones, one dog gets there first, and grabs a bone. Now, does the boneless dog go for the available bone? Nope. He, or she, couldn't care less. She only wants the bone the other dog has. Luckily, humans operate on a much higher level

Sooo...wait a minute... where's Jan? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

She drops the bomb about moving to be with a significant other & doesn't return? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

Come back & tell us more!

Tax season is over so that's no excuse. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Jan's avoiding you Nams... lol

My son busted his collar bone. Long story but I bet he don't do that again... He's doing better, just taking a lot of my time at the moment.

There's this thing about my daughter graduating in May, and I've done nothing about planning a 'celebration'. I have this innate ability to put together a party on a shoestring, but I have to plan well to do that, so I've been organizing the heck out of my schedule and the party. At the moment, we're down to less than $100, with dinner for about 50 people, and I have to rent a room to do it in - but a friend offered me their church rec hall (I accepted). That party is a ways from home! So I'll have gas money to get there - OUCH!!!

AND - I just found out tonight, I'll be doing both an anniversary party (for my honey's folks) and an 85th birthday celebration this summer. AND moving <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />. And I'm still not giving you details, but I promise - I'll post pictures very soon.

The move won't be far, kinda like across town from home. But it won't be a two bedroom trailer (so I'm happy).

I'm sitting here shivering. It was 96 here yesterday and I swear it can't be more than 30 degrees tonight! BRRRR

Jan

My, my Jan you sound as busy as ever.

You'll notice that I was polite at first by not jumping on the bomb you dropped about a SO & moving to be with him. Now you say we must wait for more info.? Not much choice but to wait is there? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

And really, sticking in the bit about the weather as if that will some how distract me. Please... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Mostly, I'm making you wait cuz I'm unsure what's happening myslf...

I had a job lined up (I thought) and things suddenly went gaga. Not that I didn't get the job but I was offered a different "position", and taking the different meant looking over the whole situation again.

Either position would be a tremendous opportunity for both myself and the kids. BF is considering both too, because the second means he has some options to change too. The best part is - either means we get to be within visual range of the Rockies. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> We get to pick Rocky Mountain Sunrise or Rocky Mountain Sunset --- hummmm

Something glorious appeals to my inner self when I think of tea or coffee on the deck watching the sunrise over the Rockies, but I'm sure the older I get the more often I'll experience sunset - not sunrise... LOL

Jan

OK...for now.

Sounds like a very exciting time for you Jan & I'm happy for you. Your BF is a lucky man.

I'm thinking I may be the lucky one. He's a peach! He loves my kids. He has kids too - adorable! And our kids blend very well. No demarkation from a blended family so far (although we aren't living together - so that may be a bonus).

The bestest bestest part - he likes that I home school, and his are beyond that age, so it isn't a problem to continue. Any travel we choose to do will be easier by home schooling.

I have book tours coming up this summer - I'm looking forward to that. I want to plan one up to New England - but so far they are looking SOUTH (I really hate SOUTH in the SUMMER!)

I'm doing a speaking engagement this week (online), and I have three more (in person) scheduled before graduation. The kids get to go with me - first time in a plane! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Jan

Jan,

Congrats on the great news! BTW, where down SOUTH?

Texas, NM, Arizona at this point. I haven't seen the schedule - but they were talking Santa Fe and Flagstaff this morning.

At least one site is a home school conference, but I'm not sure which one.

Jan

I don't know if I told you this Jan but I home schooled my oldest for about 6 months. Even though we had activities with other homeschoolers in our area my son wanted more contact with others. For him learning to work with a larger, diverse group of people was a skill he finally got when I enrolled him in a charter school.

Anyway, if you do come to N.E. let me know, we could do lunch if you have the time while on tour.

Sounds like the situation with your...sweetheart...is a good one. How did you two meet?

You know those life situations that just kind of lead you back - where you started from?

I'm there. It's been a long road - but I remember a little boy playing with pigtails... mine. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />