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Two days ago i did it.
I feel like i made the biggest mistake one minute and to the best decision in the next.
He is a workaholic. He is completely obsessed with work. I feel like he is IN LOVE with his work. Whats wrong with that? Its like living with OP in our relationship.
He rarely contact me because of work. In a long distance relationship...this is a killer.
Its usually me who has to initiate the calls and after awhile i got a bit tired of it. It started to feel like this guy do not respect me etc etc.
So as not let the relationship go bitter i thought better go separate while we are still good with each other.
I have told bf what i wanted. No point goin on if he could not fulfill my needs.
Its too soon to say if this is the end but for now i want more and he cant give it.
BS age 38
Sep 03 DDay
30 June 05 Divorce
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Good for you. Tell him what your needs are. If he can't meet them, take care of yourself. After all, if you don't take care of you, no one will. If he should change, consider whether the changes are likely to be permanent.
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Cinder...i hear you.
I was so sure he was the right one...got all the right stuff...somehow...no matter how i changed, grow and gave...he still wont fit the frame that i wanted.
BS age 38
Sep 03 DDay
30 June 05 Divorce
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I'm sorry Zizzy.
It'll take time before you know if you made the right decision or not. But you probably wouldn't have done it if it wasn't what you needed to do.
I'm sorry though, and I am sure it is hard for you right now.
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Thanks weaver...its not too bad. I did cry a few days before i made the decision. I guess i knew it was coming for me.
I put up this schedule on my mirror marking each day since I broke up with him...only 3 days has gone by.
I hate the weekends. Its always harder on weekends.
When i put exbf and exh together...i feel the same for both...some kind of a deep affection for both.
BS age 38
Sep 03 DDay
30 June 05 Divorce
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