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Dr. Harley?s (From SAA)

(OP), I want you to know that out of respect and love for my wife and children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that (BS) did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay (BS) for the pain I have caused her, I will do my best to become the husband she?s been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship.
Sincerely,
(WS)

He would also need to agree to the Four Rules of Protection:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5065_qa.html

Tread cautiously and make sure he is committed to ending his affair before you take him back. Good luck!

Try some of these, edit as necessary. GOOD LUCK!

OPOPOP,
I want you to know that out of respect and love for my husband and children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that BHBHBH did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay BHBHBH for the pain I have caused him, I will do my best to become the wife he’s been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship.

WSWSWS

To: OPOPOP
I have behaved in a selfish and inconsiderate way that has resulted in much pain to my husband and family. I know that marital reconciliation with my husband is the right thing to do, but will never fully repay the heartache I have caused. I love him and want things to work out so we can have our family back and whole, and realize all of our dreams together. To protect him, I have decided to break off all contact with you for the rest of my life. All things considered, I think it is best that I never contact you for the rest of my life and I expect the same from you. This decision, this promise to not ever contact you in any way, direct or indirect, is for life. I am so sorry for what I have done to my family. I ask that you respect my promise and never seek to contact me. I will refuse any such attempts to contact me and notify BHBHBH immediately.
I am trying to do the right thing and set my family and my life straight. I have been completely honest with BHBHBH about everything. He knows everything. The selfish and inconsiderate damage that I have caused can never be fully repaired but breaking off all contact with you is the first step towards a rebuilding of trust. I hope that in time BHBHBH will learn to trust me again and you will understand the reasons for this.
WSWSWS
To: OPOPOP

I am sending this letter to confirm for you that I have reconciled with my husband.
To protect him, I have decided to break off all contact with you. This decision, not to contact you or interact with you in any way is permanent and not subject to change. I ask that you respect my decision, and never seek to contact me, or interact with m. I will refuse all efforts to initiate contact with me, and I will notify BHBHBH immediately of any contact between us. I have been completely honest with BHBHBH about everything that has transpired. This is essential to rebuild a trusting relationship between BHBHBH and I, and I have committed myself to doing so.
I hope that this letter makes my position perfectly clear.
WSWSWS
OPOPOP,
I want you to know that out of respect and love for BHBHBH and our children, I have come to realize that I must never see or talk with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that BHBHBH did not deserve. While I cannot completely repay BHBHBH for the pain I have caused him, I will do my best to become the wife he has been missing. I care a great deal for my family and I would not want to do anything to risk their happiness. I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to make any contact with me or my family. I have told BHBHBH everything. I will tell him if you contact me. Please respect my desire to end our relationship.

WSWSWS

12-25-2005
OPOPOP,
I am writing this letter for one reason only. All communication between you and I must come to an end immediately! If BHBHBH and I are ever going to resolve our differences and re-establish the trust we once had, you and I cannot communicate with each other ever again in this lifetime.
I'm sure you can understand BHBHBH's position on this issue and if you were in his shoes that you would feel exactly the same way he does.
I love him and he deserves a 100% effort from me to make each other and our family as happy as possible.
I wish you well, and I expect your full and complete cooperation in this matter.
WSWSWS

Thank you, thank you Melodylane!

Should I forward this to H?

Forward to H and you need to approve and send letter.

stargaze, and no contact means NO CONTACT. It doesn't mean "work" contact or "church" contact. It really means no contact AT ALL. You probably know this, but just wanted to make sure.

DON'T send him to this board, stargaze!

ML,

Thanks. I won't send this board. Just did the paste and copy. He knows of MB and he acknowledged it helped him in so many ways as it did me.

THANKS everybody!

I'll keep you all posted.

why do you delete your posts?