Really glad to see you don't like it.

Apparently, the thread has been locked?

I agree, why not delete the thread?

What thread?

The one Justuss just locked.

Eagle,

Here is a link to the thread.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=0#2991255

I stayed out of the thread, but I did get something positive out of it, myself. And that was to make doubly sure I protect myself. I recognized my own vulnerability in that post, especially how I have been particularly vulnerable when I'm feeling really good about the hard work I've done to stay in shape, and also because I've been thinking of having some facial plastic surgery done, this A has taken a toll on my face and it compounds my unhappiness. I want to "stay" better looking than my husband's other woman, and the ravages of the A make me feel insecure about that. Even Dr. Harley says a woman should or could consider PS on her face if she feels insecure about her looks, or is insecure about her husband's happiness with her looks (filling his EN for an attractive spouse). I just feel very insecure about the lines that all the tears have carved across my face.

Thanks Todd, I read it, pretty much how things go. There is not a place on this board for that. But it does expose the vulnerability of a marraige. Chilled my blood. Scared me that someone could be that cold and calculating.
Happens though.

I would vote to have it removed.

I can't believe that anyone buys that load of crap he's selling about women....\


the broad not even stereotypical generalizations and the devalueing of women is pathetic....

"his" knowledge of women is juvenile at best
which is a good chance from where it stems...

and anyone who agrees with much of what he has to say about women have plenty of issues and problems with predictiability of NEVER being a happy with a REAL woman...and always in a relationship that is nothing more than a power trip and play...

the post is
shallow
crass
silly
speaks poorly of ALL women AND reflects a thousand fold the authors own patheticness....

please don't let that post bother when read one should read..

blah
blah
blah
I have no idea about anything of value on this earth
blah
blah
blah...

I'm sure the women he describes are an exact example of God's plan of women and their value on this universe...

silly pathetic sexually and attention starved women...hanging around in droves...

all hanging around waiting for someone like him to give meaning to their lives....

victims to mood swings and cramps...
those lines really made me laugh...
poor poor weak women...

may his secretary mrs. swa-higgens take very good dictation today.....

ARK^^

Eagle,

He is correct about one thing. He gives us all a perspective on a philanderer. When I first started reading his original post, I thought it was written my OM in my sitch. As I read on, I realized that he was much smarter than OM. OM is dumb as rain. Of course, crafty and manipulative. He should read the definition and description of a philanderer as written by Dr. Pittman or Shirley Glass. That would take his ego down a couple of notches.

wow, what a post however, my W feel for one of these A******
he swooped in and just began to listen and making her laugh and all the other Bull he was saying and doing.

is it right, He** no but at the same time i was to busy providing for the family and coaching our kids in there sports that i lost track of my W. now was it just the OM fault alone no shes the one who choose to go see him 2 min.
away from our home she choose to flirt and continue to do what she did.

and yes i would love if she would of came to me to talk and yes it pisses me off that she was telling the OM about what we did as a family that weekend and what not.

but i have to say it's a ****** of a wake up call to me cause now my family is broken up and i'm left to pick up the pieces.

so, i have learned from my mistakes and that when ever the good lord finds it w/ in him to put another lady in my life that i attend to her every need and to cherrish her instead of take her for granted.

WE as BS don't want to hear crap like that but at the same time we need to. in order to make shure that it doesn't ever happen again.

i would love it more than anything to go down to publix where the OM works to beat the living he** out of him but what would it acomplish. me in jail and my W w/ the perfact chance to keep me from my boys.

so we can't just blame the OP we have to blame both the OP and the WS cause it takes 2.

i for one will remember to always appreciate whom i have at home when ever that day will come.

my wife is gone now and i'm sitting here alone and hurt while shes off not feeling bad for what shes done to my family.

i look at like this if we where at war we just found out the enemies strategy and now we will be ready.

sorry if i pissed anyone off but thats my openion.

Yes Ark...

...and because he thinks like a juvenile, he will identify with those women stuck in the juvenile/adolescent mindset...

...women like that DO exist, and ARE vulnerable to becoming WSes, sadly, I very much recognize my WS self in a lot of what he describes in that post...he has issues to be sure, that's why he hunts and preys on women with the same issues, in fact...issues of insecurity, immaturity and childish entitlement, to name a few...

...MAGNETS to each other they are...

...two "soul sick" individuals seeking greener pastures in a desert of personal internal misery...where obviously none exist...so they continue to run in place emotionally together...dragging each other further into a dark black hole of escapism from self...

...focusing only outward on superficial sources of imagined happiness, instead of looking inward...because inward is dark and sick...much trouble to fix...scary to realize...inward would mean taking responsibility for personal choices, and personal growth and one's own happiness...

...ggb, has the ability to recognize the weaknesses of these women that he describes because he shares those same weaknesses...The "it takes one to know one" philosophy, if you will...

~I am proud to say that I am no longer one of the women that he describes, but I know that I was...I have looked and continue to look inward and be honest with myself, FINALLY..my issues that allowed me to choose to have an affair have been identified, and I am changing, learning and growing...I am blessed to have the grace and love of my husband in this difficult and necessary process~

Mrs. W

It's gone...

Hi...

First post here.. been reading various threads all day but stumbled upon this one and can't help but wonder what thread you all are speaking of..

What was the nature of the content that it offended so many ??

Do tell...

it's locked. what was the nature of this thread? who posted it?

Why?

why not?

it sounds intriguing.. why else..

If it is the thread of which I am thinking, just be glad it is gone. There are some things for which no need exists.

There are those who think anything is worth exploring....other women, pornography, drugs, and more. About such things, curiosity is better than experience.

So one can't post what they "think" here unless its in tune with a certain theme?

Addicts need love and attention.. and answers just as much as betrayed spouses or victims of infidelity...

I just want to know the boundaries before I start digging in here....

So far, I'm not feeling as if I'm in a safe place since I got my head chewed off for asking some basic questions.. attacked.. actually.. and I'm a newbie...

Is there another forum I should frequent where people aren't so hostile maybe...

Have you tried reading the forum guidelines?

where are they please? I would be happy to..

thank you kindly..