After 6 months of suspicion I found physical evidence that my husband has been having an affair (for over 2 years). When I confronted him he said it lasted only 5/6 months 2 years ago. That fits in with the evidence I have. However, 2 weeks after the confrontation I saw an e-greeting receipt in his e-mail inbox (by accident/coincidence). Even though I told him I did not read it, I did. He's still having the affair & he denies it. BUT, we have each since gone to one individual counseling session & we've discussed eventually going to marriage counseling. He's affectionate, attentive, complimentary, and provides his daily schedule to me. He admits that the e-greeting was "a big mistake," and that she did not respond, nor have they been in contact since he sent the e-greeting. But, I don't know. The e-greeting and the other evidence were so passionate that I don't believe him. I am so sad & heart broken. Am I a fool too? Is it possible for someone to love two people?

Welcome, G2K,

I like your name very much...I say it often to my FWH (formerly wayward husband). Caught my eye.

May I suggest that you move your post by cutting and pasting it into the most active forum, Infidelity - General Questions II? Maybe you could add a timeline (I'm confused between what you know and what he proposes that you might or might not believe); how long married, who the OW (other woman) is, if she's married, have you informed her H or not...you will find a lot of helpful posters full of wisdom from experiencing exactly what you are going through. You will get true answers, a lot of support, and I would guess, a lot of hope, too.

Have you read the articles here on this site by Dr. Harley? There are links to them to the right of your screen in a box edged in red.

To help you with abbreviations, look at the top of this forum for the post "Acronyms/Abbreviations" and they will help. For instance, your individual counseling would be IC...future MC together...helps with all the typing.

You are no fool...can't be...you're here, and learning. You're helping yourself and your marriage. Fools don't do that...they just ditch and run, so I hear. I wouldn't know.

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LA

LovingAnyway,
Thank you for your reply. I think I've moved my post to the location you have suggested. Thanks again. I'll go to that location to post another message with additional information.