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Have finally accepted the fact that there is no hope left to repair my marriage but could use some input/advise on the divorce process from those wiser than I:
what happens if STBXH can;t be found or chooses not to participate in the divorce process? I have not spoken to him in over a month now, his cell is disconnected and he has forwarded his mail to a friends house (I think). I only have information from second hand sources as to what he is doing now.
Am I better off finding him and advising that divorce is under way, or should I just lay low and let the legal system do their thing? We have no children together so that is not an issue, but I know he would fight the property settlement and eventually cost me a lot more to get free of him. He will be furious when he finds out I have filed (he does not believe we need to divorce, that I should just go away and start over) and I am a little afraid of his reaction.
Anyone with any experience have any advise?
BW 47
WH 48
D-day 6/28/05
Divorcing 2/06
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[color:"green"]If you don't know where he lives or works then you can post a notice in the local paper where he was last known to reside, which would have to serve as his "notice". Your lawyer would know what to do about this. You might have to wait the maximum time - maybe two years before your divorce could happen if this is the case.
As for property settlement, most states are pretty cut and dried with settlement. What could he possibly do? If he tries to flood you with paperwork, just make sure that your lawyer doesn't flood back when one response will do. If he is being difficult, don't use your lawyer to negotiate, that will cost a bundle, just take it to a judge and bam - all done.
Of course you have to serve him first. Just relax. It will happen eventually.
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Let the legal system do it's thing. They will find him and serve him. If by chance they can't find him or he chooses not to participate, there are legal systems in place for proceeding without him.
He sounds like a major conflict avoider. Does he think if he just buries his head in the sand everything bad will just "go away"? Wouldn't that be nice?
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