Well, folks, you knew my situation a year ago, as I was being frogmarched through an agonizing divorce. My WH, normally a rather stoic personality (at least publicly) was sending me emails that were repetitive and harrassing, demanding that I do things ("IMMEDIATELY") that, in some cases, had already been done, if he had checked with his lawyer. Bizarrely, he sometimes sent the same email more than once.

Although I had been in Plan B for some time, that's the point where I sent him an email saying I no longer knew him, and no longer wished to know him. I blocked his email account from all addresses.

Some of you suggested that the emails were coming from OW. I discarded this suggestion. Well, guess what?

OW sent out another one of her babbling, self-advertising emails to the community this week. And there was, inadvertantly, a double signature at the bottom -- hers and his. She had forgotten to suspend his automatic signature from the email.

Tipoff! Tipoff! She DOES, after all, have access to his email account! She DOES, after all, send out emails from it!

Although I wouldn't put it past him anymore to send out whacko emails -- I'm beginning to think that she had a hand in the emails last year.

[color:"blue"] There is a moral in this story for all of you newbies: [/color] Don't believe anything you hear, and only half of what you see!

The MB conventional wisdom DOES work! What looks like bliss for WS & OP is not bliss! These laws are inexorable!

Trust the knowledge!

inexorable - adj 1: not to be placated or appeased or moved by entreaty; "grim determination"; "grim necessity"; "Russia's final hour, it seemed, approached with inexorable certainty"; "relentless persecution"; "the stern demands of parenthood" [syn: grim, relentless, stern, unappeasable, unforgiving, unrelenting] 2: not capable of being swayed or diverted from a course; unsusceptible to persuasion; "he is adamant in his refusal to change his mind"; "Cynthia was inexorable; she would have none of him"- W.Churchill; "an intransigent conservative opposed to every liberal tendancy" [syn: adamant, adamantine, intransigent]





This site is better than Reader's Digest's "Word Power". I hadn't even heard this word before, so thought I'd share. LOL

Wow A.M.

Noteworthy attention to detail when looking at the mail.

Beam them up!

WAT

Well, it's true! And it's really a keen intellectual thrill!

While all your friends are telling you about his feelings for her, and her feelings for him, and you did this and that and didn't do this and that -- the Harleys have boiled it down to a simple system of laws -- stimulus-responses mechanisms and love banks, etc. Steady, inexorable, and thoroughly predictable -- like gravity.

I haven't felt this kind of pure cerebral joy since calculus.

Yes, WAT, it's utterly crazy that he would let a whacko onto his email account. He has a position of responsibility and authority -- and she's nuts and could be sending anything to anyone over his signature. Maybe she has done.

Surely he must know that!

You see, he's such a control freak, and there's such a blanket of silence over them, that it's hard to see the MB principles at work unless you are really willing to bend over the tea leaves. Which I'm not -- I'm hoping to move from here ASAP with a new job, so I'm busy -- but every so often a piece of data drifts onto my shore -- like a bit of wreckage from a long-lost ship.

And if you know how to read the data, it's a corker.

Wow, again, A.M.

Calculus, corker, what next? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm smiling in your direction!

You sound strong and effervescent.

Live long and prosper!

WAT

AMM-

refresh my memory - wasn't it your WH who went through a sham wedding with his OW, including printed invitations, white gown, large party afterwards, while he was still married?

If so, what is the latest scoop with that?

Yup. I assume it's a legal marriage now, though I don't know. In the email she sent out, she used his name (but then, she was doing that after the fake marriage -- and they were wearing wedding rings from the time he filed for divorce).

These are the inexorable laws:

1) How things begin determine how they end; tough beginnings are hard to overcome;

2) You cannot build your happiness on other people's unhappiness;

3) What goes around comes around.


It's weird, a few months ago I saw "them" at a concert. I went up and began talking to one of my few allies -- who happens to be an attractive male (and tall, as am I). XH made this weird patrolling back-and-forth in front of us -- going to the end of the room for no reason so he could come back and brush past us. Friend didn't believe it -- he thought I had been making things up.

Why do I get the feeling that things are not happy in happyville?

Maybe it's because of her long weird twisted email about how she is starting a sanitorium for old people at her house (what a thrill for the new couple) and setting herself up as a therapist/babysitter for the senile. Then, she began babbling about how important carressing is for people's well-being -- and if they called her up she would teach them how to carress her.

Ahem. Isn't that supposed to be his job?

This is an Addams Family couple -- but everyone is trying hard not to see it in a cult community of sycophants.

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"Cynthia was inexorable; she would have none of him"- W.Churchill
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True, Shattered, true. I will have none of him. My real name is Cynthia, in fact.

There must be tons of jolly stories I don't even know about!

Even beyond the time the welfare fraud people showed up on my doorstep, looking for him. Even beyond his salary falsely inflated to three times its size to make him eligible for a mortgage -- a felony! Even beyond her previous and then-current fake marriage to get a green card -- another felony! Even beyond the woman she was having an affair with when she took up with my beloved.

Another inexorable law: She's crazy. And craziness will out.

And I think it may even be contagious within a household.

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What in the heck?????
she is looking to teach other people how to carress her???

Your comment about how they were wearing wedding rings since the time he filed for D reminded me that my WxH did a similar thing. As soon as he and OW#2 moved in together (this was after our D was final - but she was still married to her H#2) they started wearing rings too. I couldn't quite figure it out - and frankly didn't care, but thought it was weird. What is the point? Anyone who knew them, knew they weren't actually married yet. is it suppoed to be romantic? I would imagine all of his co-workers had plenty to say to him about that.

Yuck

when a R starts out well, and leads to an engagement, and then marriage, you don't feel the need to wear fake wedding rings and have a fake wedding.

Hee- hee
I just thought of something really funny.

Fake wedding rigns
Fake wedding
do you suppose they are having fake SF and that is why she is looking for other people to carress her???

It's entirely likely. He's not very affectionate. He's a depressive. And his sex drive is low. Since his disabling stroke, things are ... well, let's just say even more difficult.

Plus he ended a basically good marriage for her, and she's pure liability. That's another inexorable law: they put an incredible burden on a new relationship to provide "highs," and marriages aren't about "highs," they are about love and commitment.

To alleviate his chronic depression, taking up with a crazy was probably an incredible high. Especially as they created a common enemy: me. Once I was withdrawn from the picture via Plan B, and because I didn't respond to their public humiliation and harrassment of me -- they will have to turn on each other.

I don't see this -- but I trust it. It's a law.

Yup. Hilarious, innit?

And I'm told the word "caress" is even stronger and more unambiguous in her native Spanish.

AAM,

I am so not surprised by this new info you have shared.

People do what they do to have control.

Hopefully you will be out of the area soon and onto your new adventure. Graduation is soon, right?

I sugguest you continue to eschew the situation, be wise as you have been and continue moving on.

You have a great life ahead of you. You are WORTHY, and you are marvelous.

Looking forward to celebrating your big move and your moving ahead with your life. You are so much better than this, and will be blessed.

I know this has been hard for you, but you are about an inch from having this all done with. Is the D final yet? I know it is not what you wanted, but you have done the BEST plan B and been such a good gal, you will have better times girl, as you have done the right thing for your family.

Your time will come soon.

Best of luck, God Bless.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

Thanks, Miss M. Daughter graduates in two months. Then we're free.

I suppose the D is final -- apparently, they didn't bother to send me the papers, and they aren't automatically mailed to me in this state. I really don't care much -- once we had a legal separation, I'm legally in the clear.

I'm trying to talk my stepsons into leaving with me -- they have been living in an unhealthy and unreal atmosphere, and they are going nowhere. But they are legally adults, and can do as they wish. I'm trying to find a way to keep them in the picture. They need grownups in their lives.

Woohoo! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Karmic Law #627:

There is always subtext.


Whatever you see that looks a little weird -- if you get the whole story, it's a LOT weird. Trust that one. It's the iceberg syndrome -- there's always more going on beneath the surface than you can see. In this case, if OW looks a bit flakey on the surface, if people squirm when she begins to speak because she rambles and doesn't make much sense -- she doesn't pull it together at home, where she can be her "real self." It gets worse. Inevitably.