My husband and I have been married just under a year, we have had some rocky times and some fights which always seem to end with him telling me to leave and me feeling completely abandoned and unloved. I have told him many times that he should never tell me to leave and how much it hurts me for him to say such an awful thing. We got in a fight 3 days ago and this time he kept telling me to leave, and then threw me the car keys and told me "LEAVE AND DO NOT COME BACK", also keep in mind that we just found out that I am pregnant.. I left, with the kids, went to a friends house, and ended up coming back and sleeping up in there room with them. I have continuously told him how hurtful it is when he says that (has done it about 4-5 times since we have been married). And he does it with complete control, like he means it... I am at my witts end, I am sick of having my heart ripped out in such a manner, I really at am a loss of what to do other than next time he tells me to leave grant him his wish and send divorce papers....

Curious, why do you allow fights to escalate to this level?

I wouldn't necessarily get the divorce papers out just yet. There are times when couples may need to separate for a period of time. I think before that happens when things are not volatile you need to find out why that is the weapon that he uses. No doubt it’s about power but you have to cover yourself and make sure that you are taken care of at all times. If you decide to leave then make sure that you can back up what you say. Have a plan so that you are not caught off guard. Or on the other hand you could look at it as his way of hurting you in an argument and ask God to help you ignore him. I know how you feel because sometimes my husband does the same thing. You just have to decide what you really want and go from there.