I have been visiting and reading on this site for a month now. This is my first post.

At first reading all the information was enough. Then reading some of the threads on here helped, now I am to the point that I need some advice.

WS had A, said he would break off contact, he did for a couple of days, then when I found out broke it off again.

Then I found out about a trip they took together after contact was broken off. I kicked him out and he came back next day begging to come home and make things right. I gave him a list of things I needed him to do and he agreed to all things.

Things were going well until he started to withdrawl. I tried to talk with him, but he shut me out. I gave him several chance to own up to any mistakes he had made. He said that there were none. I knew that this was a withdrawl period, and I just tried to be supportive and continue to plan A.

I downloaded his phone bill and saw that contact had stared once again. I confronted him and he admitted and said that it was not for the reasons that I thought. He told me that OW was going through a very tough time and needed a friend. I said that this was not acceptable and started packing for him. I was done.

He put his things back and went to sleep in another room. The next morning, he told me that OW made contact and said she was pregnant and did not know what to do. Needless to say, OW claims to have ended the pregnancy. My WS and I have discussed details and timeline and things are just not adding up. That really does not matter.

We went to counseling that evening and my WS is starting IC and going on anti-depressants.

He is still in other bedroom and I just dont know what to do now. I am fed up with whole situation. i know WS has family history of depression, and I have been trying to get him to go in and talk to someone, but he refused. Now that our counselor had suggested, he thinks it might be a good idea.

Our counslor suggested that I give him some space to work through this whole thing and I agreed as long as other women was told the same thing. Which WS did. What do I do now? I am in limbo and am hurting and lonely.

What do I do now? I have spent the last couple of days reading good father's thread and learned quite a bit, but I just do not know what to do in my sitch.

Any advice would be greatly appreciate.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

I know you said that your WH shuts down if you try to talk to him.

Maybe it would help if you printed some information on withdrawal and left it for him so he could read it if he chose to do so?

Here is a link to Suzet's Guide to Withdrawal for WS's and BS's

Thanks for the link. I am just at a loss on what to do right now. I know he has to recover and he is dealing with his depression, but I dont know if I should still plan A or just leave him alone. I am at a loss. I will read the guide you linked me too. Thanks.