That was soooo nice of you... and you have no idea how timely... God bless you for writing that… (and duck LOL)
I have a feeling that there are people that lurk mostly, like yourself, that don’t post their stories because of the “bullies” like LM and the other ones….
If that is the case for you or ANYONE that would like to email me (Now understand… I’m NOT an expert.. And ALL you’ll hear from me is what you can READ here anyway…but I think I do “Get it” so maybe talking to someone is better than reading from some??) and… aside from a few weak moments of frustration… I will try and keep it about what GOD wants….. That said… here is my email…. firstname.lastname@example.org
I was on the phone today with LOSTVA (BTW..... If you don’t know about her you should REALLY look up her story of recovery.....PURE PLAN"A" (or like Dazed likes to call it PLAN LOVE....) Here’s a link….. http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/dosearch.php?Cat=0&Searchpage=1&topic=
And I was telling her how I wasted so much time last night arguing with those knuckleheads.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> And we talked about the “Good Ole Days” when most EVERYONE was kind and the cry was “Divorce is NOT an option!!”
We vented and cried and yelled and moaned to each other….. And what we got back was….. YOU CAN DO THIS…… Tell me more how you feel…. TELL ME…….NOT your WS…. Tell me….
Now… as you know…. IF you vent here…. The Plan “B” pack of haters come out to poison your heart….
I have no problem with people saying “Plan “B” that UNDERSTAND Plan “B” but the ones that think it’s a “trick” to wake up a WS are so wrong….
Also smolina99, the way they put OTHER people’s spouses down calling them aliens and sluts and what have you NEVER EVER happened here before….. Hey…..you LOVE YOUR HUSBAND…..WHY would I say those things about him……. Only if I didn’t understand the “whys” and “how’s” of an affair…..something I learned from the Harleys……they also feel that “loving” your WS back is weakness and being a doormat…
I like best what Mrs. Wondering said…..
IF* I wasn't a FWW who has seen very clearly what you most certainly have not, and that is...THE GRACE, THE GENTLE STRENGTH, THE SELFLESSNESS, THE LOYALTY, THE HEROISM, THE TRUE AND DEEP LOVE of a BS in Plan A...I have said many times on this site, that I believe that this is the closest match to the love of Christ that a human will ever be able to emulate here... you have NO idea what THAT is like...I've seen it up close...it is VERY REAL in my life...it would AWE you, as it would anyone...Mr. W takes my breath away with the way that he loves me now and with the way he loved me even then...in the face of my very cruel betrayal of him...You have NO IDEA the kind of respect and admiration that I have for him because of the way he did what he did...what my husband did, and what Dazed is doing, IS the very definition of AMAZING GRACE...
That….is RIGHT FROM THE HORSES MOUTH…
And Lostva and I and Morterman and MANY others have heard the same from our spouses….and more…..
Here is a song my wife sang to me at Karaoke one night BEFORE she finally decided to come home….. Copy it all you BSs…. Because this is what your WS s will feel for you if you have the courage to put this in GOD’S mighty hands and NEVER give up…..
MY ONE TRUE FRIEND…. by BETTE MIDLER
And now, is it too late to say
How you made my life so different in your quiet way
I can see the joy in simple things,
a sunlit sky and all the songs we used to sing.
I have walked and I have I prayed.
I could forgive and we could start again.
In the end, you are my one true friend.
For all, all the times you closed your eyes,
allowing me to stumble or to be surprised,
by life, with all its twists and turns.
I made mistakes, you always knew that I would learn.
[color:"red"] And when I left, it's you who stayed.
You always knew that I'd come home again.
In the end, you are my one true friend.
Though love may break, it never dies.
It changes shape, through changing eyes.
What I denied, I now can see.
You always were the light inside of me. [/color]
Smolina99 and all the other BsS here…. Be strong….be kind…. And be about what’s RIGHT in YOUR HEART…..
GOOD LUCK & PRAYERS…. FRANK