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For the first time, I peeked in the OW Board. I wanted to read the opinions and feelings of some of the OW out there, who have either ended or have stayed in their affairs.<P>It seems that most of them are still involved in their affairs and have no remorse for it. But, there was one W who had an affair and wants to rebuild her marriage with her H. I recommended that she come to this web site to learn how to do that.<P>Still, it was interesting and sometimes sickening to read some of those OW's posts....especially the unremorseful ones. I don't think I will be going back there to get an idea of the OW's opinions. That one visit was enough for me!
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I know what you mean. It makes me sick to read their board too, yet for some reason I keep doing it. Maybe I am hoping that my H's OW will post there and I can hear her side of the story. I did notice that kate31's OW post there and I told her so that she would be aware of it because most of the OW read here also and I didn't want her to be caught ofo guard like Tired Lady was. Anyway, I can relate to your disgust with them.
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I peeked too and wish I hadn't. Because almost all these women seemed so sick, cruel and unremorseful - like its a joke - I was afraid if I read more I would lose the empathy for betrayers that I've gained from what has been shared on this board.
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If you go to that place remember that they are very different people from the betrayers who post here!!!!<BR>There really are some very good people there. You just have to look to hard to find them.<BR>It is a different attitude towards life.<BR>Don't let anything you might read there upset you! Some of them would enjoy that.<BR>We had a little problem with the OW baord a few months back and it's not worth it.<BR>Read if you feel a need to but try not to post there. They sometimes take offense to even the best intentions.
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what's the other woman board? is that something on this site? because I've never seen that!
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tamis<BR>The OW board is at a different site. <BR>It is a place for people in affairs to go safely to talk about their problems.<BR>As I said there are some decent people there but a lot of strange ones as well. Kind of like every day life I guess.<BR>Not a place of real hope though!
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I would like to check this out. Where is it?
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I'm definately going to avoid that site...I'm afraid it would put negative thoughts in my head. (not that I don't have enough already)
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I'll NEVER go there... egad!!! ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) <P>My H and I are doing GREAT ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/grin.gif) , BTW!!!!!!!<P>------------------<BR>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<BR>
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NT - Can we release the name of the OW board (it's an OM board too, though mostly women) so I can tell if it's the one I think it is? Or if there's another OW board, I'd like to know about that one too. If it's the one I think you mean, I've lurked there for over a year now, posting a couple of times when I thought somebody needed to be reminded that his/her affair was hurting someone else. But generally I keep my mouth (or keyboard!) shut and just read.<P>One of the things I do there is look for posts from my W. There've been a couple of posters (who, BTW, ARE mostly women, interestingly!) that I thought might be her but turned out not to be. But if she ever does post there (or the OM does) it will be one way I can learn about the details of her affair and reconfirm that she is definitely having one.<P>Other reasons for lurking there - It does help me convince myself that these are not bad people at heart just, maybe, a little... misguided (agree with you here, WS). Which in turn helps me understand without being too judgmental, how my W could have an affair.<P>Plus, I think there have been some posters from there who've come over here too (won't name names) and now post both places. I can only say, I've been very, very disturbed by some of the things I've read there, but very enlightened too.<P>--Wex<P>
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Well, I didn't know about this OW's board until I read Kate31's post. Angelface responded and said that Kate31's husband's OW may be posting on that site. I was curious to check out that website so I went there to check out that board. The address is www.gloryb.com/board.<P>It's really interesting that there is a support board like that. I don't think I will go there again since I realize that it won't benefit me at all.<P>Wex: Is that the board that you have been lurking on?
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NT - No. Where I've been lurking is called Philanderer's Forum (but most of the philanderers are philanderettes), so thanks for the URL. I just looked at it. The posts are very similar to PF. I haven't had a chance to read very many on the one you gave me, but my impression is that the PF ones are a little more explicit and graphic. PF'ers like to give blow-by-blow descriptions (so to speak!) of their sexual escapades with their lovers. Anyway, now I can lurk at this new place too, in search of my W. But I fully understand your not wanting to go back and the disgust some others feel about these kinds of postings. Maybe I just have a cast-iron stomach for this stuff.<P>--Wex
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There is another one.<P>The foxes teahouse.<P>http://network54.com/Hide/Forum/goto?forumid=22640<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>
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Just got back from OW Board. It really makes you see the difference in our love and hope and a sense of their desperation. The issues talked about are so much more shallow than I expected. Is that an indication that they probably are more in lust than love? I was really tempted to jump in and post something, but it didn't seem like they would really hear what I was saying anyway. Maybe someone there is getting some real personal help with feelings. It takes all kinds, I guess.
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Lynn....<P>I think that most of them in that OW Board are obviously living in la la fantasy land and are more in lust, than in love. It was so strange to read some of the posts there because I couldn't believe that most of these people justified their affairs in their own minds.<P>Pretty sad to see them live with their clouded minds. It's tragic that many marriages are drastically affected because of this attitude.<P>I'm just so glad that this Marriage Builders website exists.
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i went over to that page and while it wasn't the OW, I felt very disturbed by the presence there. While this page supports both the betrayer and the betrayed, leading them towards a common goal of restoring their marriage or at least themselves, their page encourages/sympathizes with a group of women who are only interested in tearing the bonds of marriage. Most of the comments appeared very catty.
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Deb - Tried to find FT using the address you gave, but got a "forum does not exist" message. Can you still get there? Maybe I'm doing something wrong! I am going to be a persistent lurker on these sites because, if my W ever does post, I'll know it's her and get the details that way.<P>--Wex
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Wex,<BR> Hmmmm, I don't know whats going on, I have that site book marked, but I got the same message as you did when I cked just now, the site may be down. I'll ckeck again in a day or two.<P> It is a really sick site, it's for people who are determined to get the person they are seeing away from thier spouse, so, no matter what.<P>It seems we spouse's are garbage or worse at "the foxes teahouse !" and the op has to save them from us mean poopie-heads.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>
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oh Wex,<BR> It's up right now. just cheked. I'm not sure for how long though.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>
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