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I have an odd question, but maybe I am just too sheltered and don't know what is normal. My h started shaving his private area during his A last year. He is still doing it. Why? He claims NC and I believe him because he has been open with everything. But this odd grooming makes me wonder. When I ask he says, the dermatologist told him to do it for ingrown hair. Can this be right or is this something to be suspicious about. I don't know what I could do about it. It bothers me because it started during his A and conjures up terrible thoughts about why he would want to shave there. I have told him this, but he claims he needs to do this to avoid rashes and ingrown hairs in that area.
BW--Married 35 years, 3 children, mostly grown. business owner and very busy.
D Day November 5,2005
FWH -55 yrs old , PA in July & August 2005
NC since Aug. Admitted to several other brief A's going back 20 years.
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hmmm.
Well... hmmm.
If he lived with hair down yonder for 50+ years without any problem, I doubt it's about ingrown hair or rashes. I don't know why he wouldn't tell you the truth about why he does it though.
I've heard a couple reasons for doing this by men. The first is because it is considered somewhat erotic and exciting. The second was because men find it makes their 'buddy' look bigger (less hair, more buddy).
You have every right to be upset by this if it began during his affair. I'd be the same way if my wife had started anything similar. Of course, it doesn't really mean the affar is still on.
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Like sundog said some men do it just to make things look bigger. Now I have kept things trimmed for rash reasons, but have never gone as far as shaving. Once you start shaving you have to keep it up or you do get a rash and a lot of itching.
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My H started shaving down there because he liked the look of it.
He's since stopped (I think it got a bit tedious shaving his face AND his other bits).
No ingrown hairs or rashes, just normal regrowth. You're more likely to get ingrown hairs and rashes from shaving (which is why most women wax down there and not shave).
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Hey Jen, did we ever determine whether or not bits=nibblets? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> On the shaving thing...have you told your husband how his new habit makes you feel? Perhaps he has not considered that this is a trigger for you...maybe if he realizes how you feel, he will be able to further assure you... Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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Thanks, to all the replies. I hope it is just vanity. It makes sense to me that he might have started it during the affair to look bigger and he liked it so keeps doing it. That thought never occured to me.
BW--Married 35 years, 3 children, mostly grown. business owner and very busy.
D Day November 5,2005
FWH -55 yrs old , PA in July & August 2005
NC since Aug. Admitted to several other brief A's going back 20 years.
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Well I am no expert other than I have been shaving for many years and in my case I believe shaving actually causes ingrown hairs rather than prevent them. Once the hair has come out, it doesn't go back inside. Using an electric razor also helps prevent ingrown hairs I think. Just my opinion but I find it hard to buy in to the ingrown hair theory. Is he gay?
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No, I would be even more shocked if he were gay than I was by the affair! I was totally shocked snd clueless by the affair. He seems to like sex with me too much to be gay.
BW--Married 35 years, 3 children, mostly grown. business owner and very busy.
D Day November 5,2005
FWH -55 yrs old , PA in July & August 2005
NC since Aug. Admitted to several other brief A's going back 20 years.
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55? Hm... perhaps he's going grey in the nether regions and he's a bit self-concious about that?
I trim (don't want my FWW to feel like she's flossing whenever she *ahem*), but I don't shave - I tried that once and it could be quite discomforting when the hair starts to grow back.
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That's another reason that I could not have thought of, but it seems possible too.
BW--Married 35 years, 3 children, mostly grown. business owner and very busy.
D Day November 5,2005
FWH -55 yrs old , PA in July & August 2005
NC since Aug. Admitted to several other brief A's going back 20 years.
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