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Don't know what plan to be in
#1641121 04/22/06 11:27 AM
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What do i do if he is not seeing her anymore, but he still loves her. He is staying because sometimes he feels obligated and sometimes he feels like there is something in our marriage worth saving. What plan should i be enforcing. How should I be acting? What should I be saying to him? I just don't know what to do.

BS-27(Me) WS-29 D-Day-April 10 2006 stay at home mom 2 kids (23 months and 10.5 months) NC-April 26 2006 D-day 2 2/3/2007 d-day 3 2/27/2007 d-day 4 6/15/2007 (OW says she is pregnant) "A woman is like a teabag; you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water."
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Hey there,
I'm so sorry you are in so much pain.

Please go read this entire thread by Pep
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=0#2995076

If that link doesn't work it is on Just Found Out and is called the Carrot and The Stick of Plan A.

You can not do plan B until you have done plan A so unless you want to go straight to plan D- your choices are limited.

If he is not seeing her, then no, you do not need to expose to everyone- just as long as her husband knows. There may be some others that need to know if there is an opportunity for them to get back together- such as if you go to church together. You need to expose to those who can help keep them apart.

That thread has some links to some other good threads for you to read.

Read everything you can find on Plan A here and in the book.

Hang in there.
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snr419 #1641123 04/22/06 03:56 PM
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snr,

You might want to pose this on GQII. There's more traffic in that section and you'll get more response.

HOw long was the A? When was D-day. Was there any NC letter? Do you have any children? If you WH says he still loves her, chances are he might still be seeing her. If not, he is still in the "fog" and do you have any proofs that he is not seeing her? Phone records? Emails?

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