Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2003
Posts: 42
Member
|
OP
Member
Joined: Jul 2003
Posts: 42 |
Do you ever worry that your spouse might think that you're a doormat for wanting them back after they cheated on you? I thought that things were starting to go pretty well with our reconciliation, but then last night my husband said something that really disturbed me. Seemingly out of nowhere, he said to me "I can't believe you wanted me back after finding out that I had been cheating on you for 7 months. How needy and dependent can you get? You are such a pushover!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2004
Posts: 1,892 |
hurting,
He is still wrestling with the devil on his left shoulder not the angel on his right one.
My reply" You know dear most people think it is an enormous sign of strength to presevere in the face of this terrible thing that was done to me and my marriage"
Divorced:
"Never shelter anyone from the realities of their decisions": Noodle
You believe easily what you hope for ernestly
Infidelity does not kill marriages, the lying does
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 2
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 2 |
Yes. My husband knows Im a doormat, I have put up with his cheating for years (though he always denies it). I have let myself slip away and now I dont know who I am anymore. He is cheating again, though this time I will get proof! He lies constantly about everything! My husband has made similar comments over the years too.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 265
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 265 |
What an awful thing to say. It makes me wonder why he said it. You better snoop around and see if he has started A back up again. Sounds like he is back to his old ways.
BTW what was your response to him?
Last edited by beauty; 04/24/06 03:00 PM.
"I hurt myself today, to see If I still feel...I focus on the pain, the thing only thing that's real"... Johnny Cash.."Hurt"
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 1,808
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 1,808 |
I read some of your other threads to see where you are on this ride. My gut feeling says the A may not be over. Are you sure it is?
Either that, or could this have been an exit affair- where he thought you would want a D? Since this is not his first it makes me wonder.
Are the two of you in MC?
Can you call Steve Harley at MB? The info is here on the site.
I'm very sorry for your pain. I know that comment must have hurt so much.
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
233
guests, and
83
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,623
Posts2,323,506
Members71,995
| |
Most Online3,224
May 9th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
