Well, first of all, let me say that my husband had an overprotective mother that did everything for him. He was never allowed to do anything (seriously). For example, when the family stayed at a hotel, he and his brother were not allowed to swim in the pool because it was "dangerous". When he began driving, his mother made him wear a football helmet while he drove. I could go on and on.

Anyway, I am now married to a momma's boy that doesn't know how to do anything for himself. I have had to teach him how to do most simple things around the house. I'm starting to think that there is some kind of mental situation with him because he doesn't act like a 33 yr old man. He is acting more like a 15 yr old. All he does is play golf, video games or watches movies. He seriously lacks social skills as his mother has all of his conversations for him when she is around.

Anyway, there are many problems here and I think we just need to go to a counselor to sort all of this out. However, I don't know if some of this stuff can be fixed.

Like, when you talk to him, he says the same thing over and over and laughs each time. No one finds it funny, but they do find it disturbing as do I. Sometimes he talks in the third person "Oh, Bob (not real name) is going to kiss his wife now." Once again, he thinks he is being funny. I find it creepy.

At Christmas, he yelled at my sister for having her 15 month old son in the same room as a foul mouthed comedian on tv. He told her that she needed to remove her son from the room. I along with my sister and brother in law told him to shut up as it was none of his business. The 15 month old cannot talk as well as even understand what was being said.

At New Year's we went to my sister's house and my husband took a dump at my sister's house. The next day, my sister called me and screamed at me about what a sick ****** my husband is. It seems as if he wiped his butt and stuck the toilet paper in her towel drawer. He denied it, but his brother told me a story about how my H had taken a dump on his bathroom floor. I ripped into him and asked him what the ****** is wrong with him. He kept denying it, but had a smile on his face. He said that I was making him laugh. Bullsh**!!!!!!!

I seriously think there is something mentally wrong with him and I'm thinking about getting out. I am an educated, professional woman and think I can do much better than what the ****** is going on.

Is this mental or a sick joke personality?

I dunno, but it sounds like he is doing these strange things as a way to get attention. Does he have friends that he socializes with? How about his work? Do the two of you do things together enough?

What worries me is not only his immaturity, but your attitude to him. You see him (rightfully or not) as a loser. This is a very big problem in your relationship with him, that I do not think that you see.

Good luck!

Do not ever, EVER take sides against your husband. Your loyalty should always be with your H. Not with your sister or BIL, but with your H.

Second of all, telling a spouse to shut up in front of other people is probably one of the worst things that a spouse can do to their relationship. Do NOT do that. What were you thinking?

No, it does not matter who was right about the appropriateness of a 15-month old watching adult TV. I see that both sides had a valid point. What matters is your reaction to it. If my spouse behaved as you did (or if I did that to my wife), there would be some serious h3ll to pay.

Good luck!

Well, my H does not have any friends that he hangs with. I keep encouraging him to go out and do things, but he refuses. He even golfs by himself. He may hook up with some strangers at the course for a round, but that's it.

We spend a lot of time together. I just really wish he would socialize somemore. I wish he had at least one friend.

I wish he did have some friends. I do not think he is a loser and I certainly don't tell him that. He has gotten two promotions at work within the last 6 months and a small raise.

I will not stand up for my husband if he starts to yell at my family for no good reason. He thinks it is his business to tell other people how to live (his mother also does this and also has no friends). I'm sorry it was none of his business and he needed to stay out of it.

Also, if I stand up for him when he is leaving ****** in my sister's bathroom drawer, then I look just as nuts as he is. Um no. He's on his own. I'm all for sticking up for someone, but not at this level.

I think there is something wrong upstairs.

...and how long have ya'll been married??

Has this just started, or have you just now had enough of it?

You don't get it, do you? It does not matter if you think that he is right or not. That is NOT the point. You have every right not to agree with him, but you cannot disagree with him in front of other people. You must be loyal to him. You must give preference to your spouse even over other members of the family. You can pull him aside to talk with him, even yell at him if you need to, that he needs to stay out of other people's business, but you simply cannot do it front of others.



I have no idea what was going through his mind when he did it. Maybe he was just so drunk. Maybe he did it to get back at her. Most probably it was a cry for help. I dunno.

Your reaction to your sister should not have been "he is a jerk", or something to that effect. Your reaction to her should have been: "I am sorry we did that to you. I don't know what's going on, but I'll find out."

What would you have done if your grandmother or child did that at your friend's place what your H did to your sister's place? You'd also probably would not left the immature kid, or senile senior, on his own, right?

How long have you been married? and How long did you date?

I too am married to a momma's boy and trust me it only gets worse! I know exactly what you mean by the fact that you had to teach him simple things. My H walks around clueless. These mother's aren't doing their children any favors!

How is he around the house? does he help out?

My marriage isn't great, so you better work on it now before you decide to have children, feel free to email me

I'm not a big promoter of meds, but the behavior on your H's part may be due to something a little deeper than just defiance. Worth checking into anyway - he could have a chemical imbalance or even something like diabetes and having insulin reactions. Good luck and hang in there.

Wow. That's quite a crazy predictament you have there. I realize this seems like a good time to haul [censored] out of the relationship and I know it must be tempting but I think he might really need your help. He obviously is having some severe mental issues possibly rooting from his childhood and could use some serious therapy. These bizarre behaviors might be calls for help. I know it's going to be hard to handle, but I think you should at least stick around and try and help him for as long as you can handle before throwing in the towell for good.