I am fairly new to this site and have found so many helpful things that I have not found anywhere else. Our marriage is on the brink of failure. My husband is no longer willing to work at it as he says he is loveless and careless and no longer loves me the way he should. He is so full of hurts of the past and is unwilling to forgive and move on as he feels it is like a treadmill that never stops. My problems have included angry outbursts--which I know empty the love tank pretty quick --in response to feeling threatened or lied to . My husband has a huge issue with being honest and having grown up with a father who lied and cheated with everything--this just causes something to be triggered inside of me and sometimes I feel like i am going to snap.
My H has a child from before we were married and has had no contact up until this point---now he wants a relationship with them and this has caused much tension in our home as he broke up with me before we were married and she got pregnant during that time---thus the beginning of the trust issues.
Just pray that as I am willing to change and go on and realize my faults that he will be as well and that our marriage can be saved and he can be trustworthy as well.

rangers22,
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry you are going through this situation. I've depleted the love bank in my marriage too many times to count. Our marriage counselor tells me to wait and not to jump to conclusions but to trust my husbands motives and instead work on my responses to his actions. You can get through this.

I'm praying Psalm 25:21 for you, "Let integrity and uprightness preserve me, for I wait for You."

In Him,

nordstrom