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W and I have been separated for a month because she was having a EA with a OM. He left the state for work and is coming back. She said he is coming back next week, intercepted a txt msg that he is flying back tonight.
My W has all the signs of the an A, says he's only a friend. Says she loves me but not in love with me. Has been caught several lies about the OM and other actions.
So they are planning their event in OUR house after she puts OUR kids to bed.
Should I "catch" them in the act and have the evidence for the exposure and potential legal battles in the futuer?
Should I let it go?
I need help, please
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Oh man, I'd so definately arrive there like around 12 midnight.
The house is still under your name as well, no? No restraining orders or such?
I'd arrive with a friend of family member and walk straight up to the room. Hey, we were just visiting and looking for this watch I couldn't find, right?
I'd even have a digital camcorder recording in my witnesses hands, but that's just me.
You bring the witness so that it's not just her words against yours. The only reason you 'should let this go' is if you are ready to give up on the marriage altogether.
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Do you want to save your marriage? If you do, then I would go to the house before OM get's into town and tell her it was a mistake that you moved out in anger and that you want to make your M work. Tell her that you forgive her and love her. Ask her to have no contact with OM again. It might make the difference in what she will do that night. You just might save your W from going through with it and your M <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Last edited by beauty; 04/26/06 08:14 PM.
"I hurt myself today, to see If I still feel...I focus on the pain, the thing only thing that's real"... Johnny Cash.."Hurt"
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I'm with everyone else... Be home. Protect your family. Do it until she is strong enough to help.
Last edited by any_man; 04/26/06 08:45 PM.
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I agree with Beauty and Any_man. Go over there. Say you made a huge mistake leaving; that your fixing it tonight. You have a chanve to stop this before it's too late.Do you know how many of us wish we could havehad the chance to stop the A before it became P?
Go over there now.
Good luck
me-FBS M-6/84 3 great kids
A-2/03-5/04 DDay-5/8/04 WD - severe-5/04-9/04 with continuing C; NC ltr-9/3/04
In Recovery with God's help
Praying for all WS/BS. Blessings!
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If you want to save your M your at the right place, but if you want our advice on how you can get the dirt on her for a divorce than you are barking up the wrong tree.
Let us know which one is correct.
"I hurt myself today, to see If I still feel...I focus on the pain, the thing only thing that's real"... Johnny Cash.."Hurt"
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I think you have a sitch needing some timely answers being that the WW will see OM very soon. Would you post some more details? Are you trying to save your M as was asked above? What was happening in your M? This is also a bump to get your post on first page.
LLG=Living, Learning, Growing formerly reallyconcerned
Trying to stop fearing and start living
BS-35
WS-33
kids, yes
1 D-day 8/2003, 2nd D-day 1/2006
Current status:
Working in Plan A.
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