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I'm thinking of moving on to plan B. I have to see him when he visits the kids. We have no one that can be the go between for us and the kids, so I will need to see him then.
How does that work?
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Without an intermediary, you simply minimize contact. I did it this way and it worked just fine for me.
Keep communications short and by e-mail, if possible. No interaction while exchanging kids. All business.
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WH picks up DS two days a week from the neighbor/after care. DS is old enough when WH drops him back home to come inside by himself. On the weekend, I send DS down when WH arrives in the driveway.
For communication, basically I use short notes sent down in a bag with WH's bills once a week.
That works pretty darn good.
Kim
D-Day May 14th, 2005
Married 16 Years
DS age 8
6 months Plan A
Plan B 10-11-05, H moved back in June 2007, Very False Recovery.
2nd Day-Day 7/7/08 Kicked WH Out.
Plan B for my sanity
"Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things." Robert Brault
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Hi, catgirl. I'm in the same boat as STBX and I have a 15-mo-old and no family in town. The best I could do was minimal contact. The only thing I ever talked about with him were the standard baby Q's... what did she eat, did she nap?
That's it. I don't know if that helped the situation, but it definitely helped me personally.
(Formerly SadMommy05)
BS, 29 (me)
XH, 27
DD, 1
M, 2001 high school sweethearts
OW, 36, divorcee, "we have a friendship people can't understand"
WH left out of the blue 9/5/2005
I filed 11/1/2005 D finalized 6/20/06 
XH and OW married 1/6/07. Ugh!
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