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Thanks for the report, Allsfair, and thanks for the apology. Glad to see you had an awakening. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Alls:
Once again, don't demean yourself by wasting time on revenge.
"Revenge is like taking poison and waiting for the other person 2 die."
If you box this OM in2 a corner, threatening his very livelihood, what do you think he'll do?
What do you think his W will do?
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In Speaking to AllsFair on Saturday, and again today, I do, indeed, believe her to be sincere...the story hasn't changed in any of it's details...She is a very bright young woman...Today she was very humble in her words and her voice wore the soft spoken haggardness that would come from a very emotionally draining experience...she has not eaten in 3 days...I am no mind reader, but I do believe her...FWIW...I advised her to consider all opinions here as they could be of high value to her...she agreed to do so...
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she probably needs medical care
encourage that mrs Dubya
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Guys trust me I'm no troll.
This has been very real for me.
If the blog developed quickly it's because I haven't stopped writing in it since Sunday after about 6pm. I haven't cried. I haven't released any upset through any other means but that blog.
I have sat here, in my bed, not had a shower or eaten a proper meal since Friday. I stink - literarily. I am upset. I am trying to get it out of my system because I have work to be getting on with.
If it seems like a quick turn around, it's because I never let people lie to me ... I always told him that I would never cover up for him to anyone. Well, 3 and half hours on the phone with Mrs Wondering gave me reason to doubt him.
You don't have to believe me that's fine. But I am really grateful for all of your help anyway.
Writing is just how I get out my emotions. So it has come in very useful at this point.
P.S If it helps I was in a very bad relationship for almost 3 years with a guy and his other girlfriend. A sort of polygamous situation. It put me under enormous strain and I am fast to attack for that same 'crime' because I told this man about that. He met me dealing with some of the issues from that long after it had ended.
If my anger was quick, and my punishment harsh, this is why.
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she probably needs medical care
encourage that mrs Dubya You just encouraged that Pep! She'll consider it... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> We did talk about taking care of her...and what Mr. W and I would advise if she were our daughter...Hoping some of you will give the same type advice... Mrs. W
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Alls: It sounds like he 2k advantage of your vulnerability, then. Try channeling your anger elsewhere. Instead of writing a blog, write it down in a journal for your own perusal at some later date. Try channeling that anger in2 eroding a bar of soap, even. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> -ol' 2long
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Cherished:
I don't think she should see him even if he does get DV'd.
And she certainly shouldn't tell him that. It's 2 late for that. They went 2 far.
-ol' 2long
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mrs W This is from one of her previous posts One thing I've consistently said to my SO - I WILL physically damage the OW if he ever has an A. I mean, whatever she has that attracted him I will physically remove, before asking him to work on the marriage with me.
I am a believer in doing what makes me feel better, whether it meets others moral standards or not. this is not a stable young woman
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It is my understanding that she doesn't want him on any terms...she sees the position she allowed herself to be put in...and she is sickened that she allowed herself to make such a choice...
Pep, I *think* that that POV was an angry response by her here...I *think* that her position has now changed...However, I'll let Allsfair speak to that...
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be careful hunny
just be careful
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Pep, I *think* that that POV was an angry response by her here...I *think* that her position has now changed...However, I'll let Allsfair speak to that... that quote was written while she was still madly in love with MM ... it was NOT written after she 'discovered' he was not divorcing
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be careful hunny
just be careful
Pep Yes Ma'am...You know that I always appreciate your counsel...I gotcha... Mrs. W
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Pepperband you're right. When people really take the pi*s with my life, I do make sure they wish they hadn't. No matter how hard and time consuming.
I took said polygamous ex to court myself for assault and he was found guilty.
I will put my hand up to whatever I do. I want them to know it was me and I want them to know why.
That makes me feel I didn't lose.
The blog IS punishment. It DOES make me feel better. But it is probably one of the harshest punishmentd I've ever doled out. I am that agrieved.
Mrs W. thought you might have a helpful take on the issue and I agreed to ask because I know 'MY WAY' is often kindda crazy.
I have gotten lots of helpful responses and I thank you.
I don't know if the blog is 'fair' or 'too much', I am just hurt and angry and I want to let it out in a way that does make him wish he hadn't pursued me in th first place.
I don't know how I'm supposed to just hang my head and slink away quietly... never was very good at doing anything quietly.
Ahh. All that I can get from here I think i've gotten. I am removing my account.
Thank you all very much for Saturday and your responses today.
Take care and best wishes xx
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Well, I went to see the blog... and all I can say is that there is an extreme change of attitude from what we read over the weekend (not that I didn't notice that on the email posted here).
And MB is mentioned... so... so much for what I said earlier.
I was going to mention editing out the names, but since the names are all over the blog...
I don't know... it concerns me... but then again, it isn't me you have to convince...
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Well.
that was faster than quick!
Alls: You're not "done" by any stretch. Got a lotta healing 2 do. Gotta get past this vengence crap. Don't let it own you.
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Dern - I didn't get a chance to see the flog blog before Justuss came in and did his/her usual good job. Is Justuss a his or a her? Sorta like the ACLU - you just hate it when you get pissed off by a different opinion being right. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Good humility practice, though. WAT
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I am also concerned about MB being mentioned...Allsfair knows my position on that...I personally think that the MB link should be removed from the blog... Allsfair, would you please remove my MB name from the blog? You are most welcome for any part that I played in helping you come to your own conclusion...You really don't have to thank me there, k? Believe me, my own infidelity has wreaked enough havoc on the lives of Mr. W and I on this side of the pond... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> Mrs. W
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Mrs W:
Well, I tried a search for me and MB, and got nothing.
WAT> I saw the blog, but didn't try going there, and now I don't remember it!
-which is prolly a good thang.
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