Hi,<P>Update: found some love letters- H and OW planning on meeting in Nov (she lives in out of state). I have the dates of the visit.<BR>I am thinking I need to be there at the airport to GREET them. I am also thinking about calling OW h to let him in on this. Yes, I know this is probably really wrong, but these two think they have fooled everyone into believeing there is nothing going on.<BR>HA! What do you thing? Should I try it? If so, how would you go about getting the fligh information and how would you contact OW H?<BR>I may not get many responses here, but like I said, I'm becoming wicked. It's time to let them know we're on the them.<P>Thanks<P>Cheryl

When you go take a camcorder with you "Smile, you're on Candid Camera" before they see you however, film them for a while. I'm feeling on the vindictive side of life today. Can you tell?

I'm don't know where you are at in your marriage, if he knows that you know he's seeing someone or not, but in my opinion, it all depends on what you want to accomplish. If you are wanting him to see the error of his ways, and follow you back home, I wouldn't recomend it. I doubt that will happen. In fact, it could very well be the thing that pushes him to her permanently. If you are looking for evidence to help with your divorce, then I say, get going. Have you seen the two of them together before? If not, a word of caution ... this might hurt a bit. <BR>Good luck.

Wicked yes. I love wicked. Maybe you should make plans to meet them at the airport with the OW H. Oh wouldn't that be fun! I'm sure that would be considered the love busting of all love busters but hey he has been just a [censored] to you the past few months he deserves it! You just can't let this opportunity pass without doing something. <BR> Snow to give away! Snow to give away! Come get your snow! Ugh! I'll have to shovel if this keeps up. <BR> Back to plans. The more I think of it I really think that you and OW husband need to get together. A person hates to hurt someone else just for revenge but I agree I think OWH deserves to know the truth. Just be prepared for the consequences. You know that H will be just pissed as hell at you but then again who really cares at this point right? I know, I know not really MB principles but you are a good friend and I hate to see how much he hurts you.<P> Take care<P>Jill

DO IT.<P>------------------<BR>--Girlfriend in a coma (I know, I know it's serious)

I am feeling that it is time to get even. At this point, reconciliation is out of reach. H continues to deny this relationship and our divorce is in full swing. I figure I really have nothing to lose.<BR>I have not seen them together, but I know it would be hard. I think it is harder knowing that something is going on and that he denys it.<P>Her Mike- wanna go with me? Were just across the river from each other. You could be the picture taker- LOL<P>Cheryl

Spitefulness is a learned behavior. It's easy to be a good student when you go through this kind of thing. Flight schedules are easily gotten on the Internet. Just make sure you're ready for their reaction to your little welcoming party.

Cheryl,<BR>I am not across the river, we are in the same town. I said a small suberb of CB.... feeble attempt at a joke. I live way out west of the Big"O".<BR>Wouldn't it be fun to burst thier bubble. I bet he would still deny it though....<BR>Michael

Hi CeeCee,<BR>I think after everything your H has put you through, he deserves a taste of his own medicine. Get on the internet and see if you can't locate the OW's H name and go for it.<P>------------------<BR>To Thine Own Self Be True<BR>A.K.A.<BR>PondVJ<BR>

I wish I had the will power you have to sit on this thing for this long. The OW's H told me about my H's affair. No one was angry at him for doing so. I drove around for a couple of hours before confronting H, but in hindsight I wish I had kept my mouth shut and planned something devious. The OW's H was willing but he was 3 hours away and I couldn't wait. Boy, have I come up with some scenarios that I could have done since then. Surely you know someone that your H would tell his flight schedule to in case of emergency..... Oh, the thrill of revenge......wonder if it equals the thrill of an affair???

I'm fairly certain that they will soil themselves when they see you there. I'd pay real money to see it. Even more fun would be to just STARE at them till they see you, make eye contact for about 5 seconds, and then walk away ... head for home and cancel all his credit cards he's using for this little trip. Report them stolen.<P>Guess I'm pretty wicked too.<p>[This message has been edited by Maya (edited October 04, 1999).]

Oooooh behave......

Sorry, Mike ! The evil Maya seemed to have slipped in and used my password without permission!!!<P>LOL

ceecee,<P>If you need to do this to demonstrate to your husband (or your lawyers) that you know he's having an affair, than do it.<P>Any other reason (revenge, fun, hate) is beneath you.

ceecee, can't help but agree with "K" in some ways, you know they will be angry, and there will be some reactions to this, prepare yourself. But then if it's all so innocent as they are trying to lead you to believe isn't that ok??? I could see this as working, it's not like your catching them in the act, but maybe doing a wake up call is the thing to do?? Either way, God Bless! <P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

ceecee:<BR>by all means call the ow, h and mmet them <BR>at the airport. 1 of 2 things will happen, the affair will end or continue. in my situation, my w called the ow and they got me good. now i thank god and them for doing what they did to me because it ended an affair that i couldnt get out of I WAS ADDICTED. do it but be careful. please let us know..

I wouldn't be able to wait until November! <P>I caught my H w/last OW twice. First time, both he and she were so surprised, they were almost paralyzed...which didn't make for an "appropriate" scene. I accept now, that it was the "surprise" element that made him "defend" her...he was afraid I would ATTACK someone! But, like Sorina said, it didn't stop him. I don't think he skipped a beat in the relationship...just got more careful.<P>Caught him again at same place about a month later. This time, he came out in tears.<P>On both occassions, my reasons were to verify that affair was still in progress as he was continuing to DENY that it was.<P>I still can't get the picture out of my head from that day. Her sitting in MY seat in OUR car like she BELONGED there. I actually tried to ignore her to maintain my self-control. Spoke directly and only to him and asked him to ask her to get out of the car so we (he and I) could talk. He kept asking what I was doing there. DUH! He wouldn't ask her to get out so I walked over to her side to "help" her. He raced around the other way and got there before me. When he arrived there, she finally decide to move, ever so slowly. We (she and I) had a few words while he is hovering over me and still questioning ME about my being there at all. After she went inside, I let him have it...emotions raging at this point...angry, sad, sick, disappointed, relieved w/truth, etc. He tells me, see, this is why I do what I do! So what is the appropriate reaction to finding your husband w/another woman?, I asked.<P>I apologize for rambling...I hadn't put this scene into words in such a long time...venting for me.<P>I hope that, if nothing else, it gives you some idea of what "may" occur if you catch them off guard. My goal was to confirm my suspicions. I did that, but I wasn't prepared for the "waffling" on his part. I guess I hadn't really thought so much about his reaction as much as looking for confirmation. My natural inclination would have been that when I arrived in a scene like that, under any circumstances, that he would "stand" w/his wife. At least, excuse her to deal w/me alone...he could deal w/her later. But he didn't do that. It was like one of those defining moments that I still have a hard time forgiving. <P>Maybe November won't be so bad since this will give you time to emotionally prepare for whatever the outcome may be.<P>Wouldn't it be great if both you and OW's H could both be at the welcome party! <P>Good Luck CeeCee!<P>

Thank you guys. Sounds like there are some mixed feelings about this.<P>I dont know what I am going to do. I still have a few weeks left to decide. I would really like to get a look at the little home-wrecker, tho. She is like a ghost to me. I think maybe I could put some of this to rest if I knew what she looked like.<P>I'm still thinking about letting OW H know. I think he deserves to know. I know if it was me, thinking my marriage was ok, I would appreciate the information.<P>c<P>mnk- you never know. I might be calling on you <P>