Recently I found out that my husband had an sexual encounter with a young lady that he met on his job. However, it has been months since they have worked together and wondered why that relationship continued in the first place. On several occasions I asked him were they involved with each other and he denied it each time. I also had previously told him that I felt that he was emotionally attached to her which made him furious. I asked him on numerous occasions to discontinue but he did not. Then about a month and a half ago he said that relationship turned intimate one night and that it only happened that one time and that they both decided not to see each other. However, they continued to send each other text messages and emails. It was not until two weeks ago that he decided to tell me. We agreed on going to counseling to recociled our marriage and now she is saying that she is pregnant and wants to have this child. She continues to call and text him daily and he accepts them from. I told him that I disapprove of them communicating so much. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I feel if she is planning on keeping this child that she should only contacting him en reference to that child and nothing us. Not her problems at home or anything! We have two children of our own: a two year and a 9 nine month old. He has a 12 year son (prior to our relationship). This whole situation is out of character for him I guess thats why I am in shock. I Love my husband but, I don't want to be anyones fool.

Is it likely the baby is your husbands?

Pep

What is your WH (wandering husband) saying to you now about

1. his affair

2. his desire to stay in the marriage?

Pep

Md,

How much do you know about OW, like age, is she married etc. I agree with Pep, you will want to know once the baby is born if it is your H's. It could be that OW is just claiming to be pregnant because your WH ended the A.

Our OW tried this crap with my H when he tried to end their A and he refused to discuss it with her until she knew for sure and could present proof. Since they had always used protection (condums) and she was supposed to be on the pill, he questioned her claim from the beginning. It was all a fictious attempt to keep him involved and was just the push he needed to completely end the affair.

Even if OW is pregnant, I don't see why your H needs to remain in contact with her until the baby is born and it is established that he in the father. If he is, of course then it is a different ballgame.

Guess that I would recommend that he write a NC letter that indicates he wants no contact with her until the baby is born and that once the baby is born, he will submit to a paternity test and if he is the father, then they will have to make appropriate arrangements.

Who