I have come to the realization that WH is purposely trying to push me away so that I am the one to file, even though he knows it is not what I want. After 6 months of trying to reconcile, he still can't stop lying and hurting me. I have done everything, my counselor said it takes time, but I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel, only darkness. He doesn't seem to want to reconcile, he just wants me to accept that he is going to continue to work, play softball and be "friends" with the OW. He is not even hiding it anymore. I tell him how much it hurts me, rather than fighting, and he just does something to hurt me even more. I feel like he is a teenager rebelling against his parents.

Anyway, I did a google search for Pennsy. divorce attorneys and there are an overwhelming response. Is there anywhere I can gain information first before I hire an attorney, something someone can reccomend?

THanks for your help. I am hoping my counselor can offer some resources as well, I see him tonight.

TS

BS-me (32)
WH- (32)
together 13 years, married almost 9yrs (7/97)
2yo dd 4 yo dd
EA/PA Aug 2005-Nov 2005 1st Dday Nov 1, 2nd Dday March 3, 3rd Dday, yesterday............no more!

http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorce/Pennsylvania-Divorce-Laws-708.html

This is a link with some of the basic info regarding Divorce. I google PA divorce laws not attorneys.

RE finding a good divorce lawyer ask around. You have to know someone that has been divorced. Find out how their attorney worked for them. You can also check out the bar associations website.

Before you do anything you need to think about the actual divorce as well. Some lawyers are better at mediation or friendly divorces, and some specialize in adversarial divorces.

Before you do anything though try to work it out.

What have you learned about Plan A and Plan B? Have you read much from this site? Where are you at in Plan A or Plan B?