Hi everyone,

Three years ago I was here (Gut_Rot) looking for help from all the wise people on this board. It was very helpful.

In a nut shell my wife cheated on me three years ago and within the last couple of weeks she finally told me. She told me because our relationship never improved and she changed little. Three years of lies and false recovery, I feel betrayed again.

She has know Idea how I feel for some reason and doesn’t seem to hear what I have to say, If she here’s your comments she may understand.

My original post: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...true#Post437677

Please read her post in: (id - Sad Again) Negotiating in Marriage (she’s not getting much action)
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...;page=0#3004352


Please reply to her post with any suggestions, I need your help again.

Thank you
Gut Rot

seems reasonable to me ...

this is a marriage that can be saved

if you want the creme of the crop

call the Harleys for a session .... or attend one of their marriage seminars

things will improve with REAL help

Pep

She cheated on you again? Is that what you're trying to say?

Continued indiscretions (prior to telling be about the one three years ago)
1. As recent as last month she is going for lunch with an unhappily married man from work (he buys), on several occasions. Calls his cell numerous time during the day (small retail store they both work in)

2. Last year, out several times until 3am, with 20 year old man, taking long walks along the water front, driving him home, when confronted she admits to necking with him but assures me that is all she’s done (as if, just like the one three years ago), this kid spread rumors that my wife gave him a bj) Says she had to push him away from her!, he no longer works for the same company.

I have only found out about these two items last month, though last year I did know she went out till 3am, back then she said she couldn’t believe I would suggest anything, she said “they just wanted me to go out drinking/dancing because I was fun” not because she’s twice there age.

I just can’t believe this is my wife, and I can’t believe a word she says, she has never told me anything upfront when asked. How can I possibly move forward?

We are finally arranging MC next week, I had to push and push for her to go with me. She had HIV testing this week and I will get the results in 10 days!

To this day she just can’t understand why I can’t move forward and forget the past, who knows what else she holds deep inside, I surely don’t

GR

Then you have a serial adulterer on your hands, GR. Sounds like she's not terribly remorseful either.

Your best bet is to see if you can make an appointment for a counseling session with Steve Harley. Unfortunately, what folks out here have found is the normal MB principles just don't work with serial cheaters.