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A book from Dr Harley to recommend when S is reluctant to....
#1649225 05/05/06 02:54 PM
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I've tried to discuss this and people bust me out about it. I've noticed that Dr harley doesn't seem to have articles that deal with how to deal with non-compliant WS. If your S is suppose to be maintaining NC, but says that talking about transparency makes him feel that I, the BS is suspicous but has been caught in having told a lie about his whereabouts, what does Dr Harley recommend. Are there books about this? or articles about non-compliance?

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Re: A book from Dr Harley to recommend when S is reluctant to....
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It's covered in Surviving An Affair very well.

How To Organize A Marital Recovery Plan
Spying 101
Exposure 101"
Re: A book from Dr Harley to recommend when S is reluctant to....
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2 D-days over 3 years

no enthusiastic recovery cooperation from WS

... I think there is no book written that explains how to force someone to do what they clearly are not willing to do

I'd CALL the HARLEYS and set up an individual appointment

Pep

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Re: A book from Dr Harley to recommend when S is reluctant to....
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Oops, I'm guilty of not knowing enough of the situation. Pep has it right. Call Steve Harley and get advice tailored specifically to you, LG.

How To Organize A Marital Recovery Plan
Spying 101
Exposure 101"
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Longhorn or pepperband can you tell me what i shoudl know when talking to the Harley's?

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Trying to stop fearing and start living
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1 D-day 8/2003, 2nd D-day 1/2006
Current status:
Working in Plan A.
Re: A book from Dr Harley to recommend when S is reluctant to....
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Longhorn or pepperband can you tell me what i shoudl know when talking to the Harley's?

I would make an outline of all important marital history
... not wordy ... just outline

re-read SAA or this site so you are sure you understand the concepts ...

when you have your appointment, record it or take careful notes

know what your top ENs are and his too if possible

GOOD FOR YOU

Pep

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