Hey Believer, thanks for your response. Yes the money is coming out first, like taxes, etc. so he won't even see it. Good thing too b/c if it was any other way, I would continue to wait and he would never take care of his responsibilities.

I forget - are you in this country?

Yes! thank God!!! I like these new CS laws.

You can get his social security, if he pays into it, when you are ready to retire, since you were married 10 years. See my other post.

Hallelujah!!! WXH got the mortgage caught up, well all but $600. For once he told the truth about something. Hopefully he was telling the truth about the CS payment he sent in Friday b/c it would be sure nice to have right about now.

I’m sure he did it so I will not file the contempt charges against him but he still owes $600 and he has not given me the money for my attorney fees so I am still going to file those charges on Monday when my attorney returns unless some other miracle happens before then.

Glad that things are going better. This stuff is very stressful.

It really is soooo stressful. I had to go to the doctor last week b/c I was having chest pains. They did tests and I am fine but the doctor did tell me that I needed to relax.

Easier said than done, I told him that I have 5 kids, all 9 and younger, to take care of and just got D and you say relax.

But I am doing things to try to relax and not so stressed out over this stuff. As soon as I start getting the CS, I know things will be less stressful b/c I am mostly stressed about finances.

Well, WXH Motion to Reconsider or for a new trial was overruled.

Also, finally, after all this time, a wage assignment has been sent to WXH employer.

Haven’t heard from WXH since July 3rd when he left the message updating me about the mortgage being caught up and other things until Friday when he called (I did not answer the phone) and asked if we could switch weekends again. Funny he only tries to make contact when he wants something, not to talk to the kids whom he hasn’t seen in a couple of weeks, not to see if they needed anything since he hasn’t start paying CS yet, only when he wants something, unbelievable.

Well, I did not return his call b/c I have plans next weekend when he is suppose to have the kids. Which I think he got the message since he did not show up Friday, the weekend he wanted to switch. I have a feeling that he won’t show up this weekend (his regularly scheduled weekend).

And my attorney sent his attorney a fax and letter stating that we will give him until the 25th of this month to pay my attorney fees or we will execute a garnishment of his wages.

Way to go Pepsi. The WS sometimes just doesn't get it. They are above the law and entitled, how dare you screw up his little fantasy land with reality.

Way to go!

Thanks H&P, btw like the name, I have done a lot of hoping and praying.

I am glad that the kids and I can get on with our lives and that he cannot get out of his responsibilities.

Just stay the course, Pepsi. Most of what WSs do is smoke and mirrors with not much substance. Just stay with your plan and trust the Lord. The rest WILL take care of itself.

Standing in His Presence

Hey Pepsi,

Good job. Just keep fighting for your rights and not letting up. Your kids are counting on you.

If you don't mind could you post, email or fax me a copy or summary of your exact divorce order. I think it will be useful herein when a newbie with lots of kids shows up and really wonders what the court will actually do. Most of these situations settle, so having an actual adjudicated outcome may be enlightening to even those negotiating and try to decide whether to risk it or not (as you so rightfully did).

A newbie BS could show this decision to her "on the fence" WS and perhaps shine some reality upon the situation. You are proof positive that such WH's have NO idea how bad it's going to be UNTIL THE END. Unfortunately, your WH looks like he's too far down the road to ever wake up but if he knew, really knew, a long time ago it MAY have helped.

I understand if you don't have the time (especially with all those kids and a job) but your story may really help someone. If you post it, I'll be marking a link to it for future use. If you just email it to me, I'll cut and paste it in where appropriate...in the future. Obviously, edit out names, addresses and everthing. You could also contact me off-line and simply fax a copy to me and I'll edit out everything and make it usable for MB.

My email is below. My wife and I share it.

God Bless,

Mr. Wondering

Thanks MM, I'm really trying. Had a horrible week. Just when things seemed to be looking up then BAM!!! life happens. My car stopped again which I have no way to work so I had to take a leave, my aunt had a major stroke, I have no money until CS kicks in which will be another week or two or three.

Even though all this is going on I still have peace and know that God will take care of us.

Hey MrW,

That's a good idea, I will definitely get it to you, it will probably be better for me to fax it to you. Give me a few days as you can see from my above post I have had a bad week.

Sorry things are so bad. Just get through this somehow, and when the support comes through, you can breathe a sigh of relief!

Thanks Believer,

WXH just left a message saying that he needed to make arrangements for the kids this weekend and I needed to return his call. Don't know if I should or not.