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Affair ended, so I've ended plan B. I've attempted to offer plan A, but W. is so far into divorce process that is utterly ignored. She is not open to talk about anything other than the mechanics of the divorce, parenting concerns, money etc. Alcohol is a strong factor. It would appear that the drama that so many of the others who post on this board live with on a daily basis is going to end for me (will she come back? will she respond to Plan A? Now that the affair is over,can we reconcile?) The answer is no, no, no. I'd appreciate any thoughts from anyone. Is there a plan C, for near- or post-divorce?
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This is something I fear continually. I am just starting Plan A so I have no real advise other than it sounds like a real bummer. I would say keep your chin up but that might be addind insult to injury
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doc - I too unfortunately face divorce. Except in my case W is still living with OM. I have already started to disconnect mentally. It is very difficult to do because you love her so much but I have to face facts too.<P>Don't give up hope, pray long and hard but also prepare yourself for a divorce. Thst's what I have to do... God bless you doc.
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I've asked this on a couple of threads in the past. But are there any near-divorce, post-divorce success stories out there - where a betrayer, after ending the affair, did indeed come back from the brink of divorce to reconcile? I'd love to hear any thoughts, advice, lessons learned etc.
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doc,<P>I just posted on Shattered's thread "I can't Hang On"... Maybe this may be of interest.<P>Eric32
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Thanks Eric 32 for the tip to go over to Shattered1's "I'm hanging on" thread. What a goldmine of good thoughts for hanging on when divorce seems so inevitable. <P>It is clear that we have no idea what is going to happen today. If I'm on page 256 of the novel that is the story of my life, I really have NO IDEA what is going to be on 257. I only think I know. If that is not a context for trusting God (or going insane), I don't know what is.
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