she swears he is just a friend. i found a card from her that stated otherwise and an email too. this morning at 1230am he was sitting in front of our house! he left as soon as he saw me. somehow she knew he was the one that was there when i just mentioned a silver car out front. i got curious and checked her text messages. he has been telling her to leave me and that he cant stand that she has to be with me. all kinds of crap like that. i asked my wife then what he tells her to do concerning us and she simply stated several times that he only tells her to do what makes her happy and what she thinks is right. oh my gosh the anger that flashed on her face when i told her what i had read. now i am the bad guy because i dont trust her and i invaded her privacy. we have been seperated for several months and made little progress. know i see why. this guy has been telling her all sorts of crap and i dont know how to deal with this. our marriage councelor told her months ago that she needs to sever that relationship, but to this day, she hasnt and I am starting to think that she never will. we have been married almost 10 years now and have 2 kids. this is killing me. pray for me. thanks.

You should move this to General Questions II - a lot more people there - especially during the week during work hours.