I did it. I booked the flight!...a leap of faith <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

OMG!!!I can't believe I did it...I have to juggle a couple bills but with the new job/raise it shouldn't be a problem.

...crossing my fingers for you, CHA CHA!

Hi ChaCha,

Geeze, I turn my back for a few weeks and you've got a job, a raise, a date, and a trip to Puerto Rico! Who's your coach?! Seriously though, congratulations, you deserve it and I'm so glad good things are happening to you.

My very humble opinion is that PR is a good idea. If you two are going to attempt the very large hurdle in front of you, what better way to get it jump started than in a tropical paradise? NJ or PR? I think it's a no brainer! Just remember that he is working this trip, right? You'll have to keep your expectations in check so you don't feel neglected.

Speaking of expectations on this trip, what are yours? What are his?

Wishing you many more good things! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

P.S. I loved how you just happened to be coming out of the pool/toweling off when WH arrived. What, did you have Bolero playing too? No wonder you're going to PR! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hey confused.. I didn't recognise your new nick! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Congrats for the good stuff that's been happening. After such a rollercoaster! I hope things will continue to be good for you!

~A

Shattered and Ashley,
Its nice to see you! Where have you been hiding out? Hope things are well w/ you guys. I'll go look for your updates.(hint, hint)

Its been 2 years since this came to a head!Months and months of nothing but limbo, fence sitting and cake eating...I finally get to plan B and in less than a month...a NC contact letter!! I know I wouldn't have gotten this far w/o MB. My coach???? All of you guys! I've been reading and learning and soaking it all up. You guys have been here when I thought I was crazy, when I couldn't eat or sleep, when I couldn't seem to stop crying, MB was a place to vent when there was silence and the cold shoulder, you guys where here to kick my but when I broke plan B (well deserved <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />)and now as things seem to be turning around you are still here encouraging me. I TRUELY have no idea where I'd be w/o you guys. As I told SH I'd probably be crazy and divorced.

As for my expectations for the Puerto Rico trip? I just sent WH an email about this last night. WH has to work so I figure I'll get up and have breakfast w/him and send him on his way then...I might go back to sleep, lounge by the pool and read a book, shop!, take a tour of old San Juan, take a bubble bath...spend time pampering myself...then I could take a nap. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I'm excited and nervous to spend this time away w/ him. My expectation is to get to know eachother a little again. No romance. No sex. No pressure. But talking about whatever comes to mind...the weather, the girl w/ the thong, the lady w/ the dog in her purse, whatever we saw or did that day, nothing deep and soul searching. Its weird but over the years our conversation has become so serious...about the kids, work, bills, house problems yada, yada, yada. I'm looking to relax and have fun for a few days....and maybe work on my tan a little. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I'm not sure what his expectations are.

I'd bet the house they include SF!

Shattered......you think you know us guys???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Good luck CC.....I'll be thinking about your family!

Am I right or am I right?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm not understanding the NO ROMANCE...NO SEX.

In Puerto Rico?

Why not?

Make claim to your territory...

It's Ok. He's your Husband...

LOL...I guess I didn't explain myself too well.

I'm not going into this trip with the expectation that this is a lovely romantic getaway or 2nd honeymoon. I'm not expecting candle light and flowers and moonlit walks on the beach. Not to say if it went that way I would refuse! I'll be sure to shave just in case <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Great!! This is what I love to hear!!!

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I have a seductive strategy for you if you are interested.

Mimi...sounds interesting.

Brief update...
(F?)WH and I have been spending lots of time together over the last few days. DS & DD are with BIL for the week. We have been... playful <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />. He is being more talkative and going out of his way to do things for me. Like Monday I had to work but he was off. He spent the day doing yard work and cleaning out the basement ....lots of rain lately...water damage. When I got home from work he was in the pool he graciously helped me in the pool....with my clothes on. It was fun! We laughed a lot. He made dinner and waited on me hand and foot. No awkward silence. It was wonderful.

Today he gave me some lessons on some of the equipment I wasn't sure how to use. More yardwork and the yucky basement. We worked together and got a lot accomplished. I made sure I showed my appreciation...and shared some thoughts on how I didn't realize how difficult some of his routine chores are...hot and dirty and stinky chores. More pool time before he headed back to his Dad's.

I think we both enjoyed other's company...I'm looking forward to Puerto Rico next week. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

CC,

Sounds like things are going well and I'm encouraged that your FWH? is trying to meet your ENs.

How are you feeling about all this?

HTW

Its a welcome surprise. It feels wonderful to be cared for. I am still cautious.

If I think about it too much its frustrating because it means all this time he knew what to do....he just didn't choose to do it.

So I'm taking it day by day. He hasn't talked about moving back home. I've already told him I want him to speak to SH before/if he comes home.

HTW...how are you?
Does she still plan to move out soon?

Do you consider yourself more on the sexually inhibited side or uncomfortable with your body?

If so, my suggestions may not be for you.

I probably won't be able to get back with you until tomorrow.

ChaCha,

I'm so happy that things are really going well for you. I look forward to hearing more good news from.

Mimi,

I can't wait to read your suggestions to ChaCha.

CC, thanks for asking. I'm doing well inspite of the clock running down on my M. Plan B is less than 1 month away for me and I will update once I get there. I'm in a much better place this year compared to last and I know I will be fine.

Take care and all the best to you and your M.

HTW

This is what I did..for many different reasons...

It's fairly simple if you are not inhibited and aren't uncomfortable with your body.

I began this right away at the beginning of Recovery. It was new for me..for us..others may do this all the time.

I began TO DRESS and TO UNDRESS right in front of my H..without any proclamations from me..or any indication that I was doing this to be seductive or provocative...just made it seem the normal and regular thing for a wife to do. I could tell that initially he was somewhat shocked.

I think he enjoys watching me DRESS even more than the undressing. He shows up with the coffee at a certain time each morning. I believe that I surely stay on his mind all day long....

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