This is my first post. I am in a very difficult place right now. First I will fill you in a little bit, please bear with me. My H had A last year (July '05). We never had a time when we did not see eachother during this time. He said he wanted to fall in love again, so he did. H has said many terrible things over the last year; he's really a wonderful man, so I know it's, mostly, not true. I told him that he needed to make a decision about coming home. That was last October; he came home (much too soon). He has been distant and sometimes outright mean. Very insensitive and gives me nothing. Rarely touches me. I have tried to give him affection/attention, only to be snubbed on the reciprocation. I have told him that he needs to make a decision about whether the M is something that he wants to work on; he has not responded as of yet. OW is out of our lives, but they had to work together up until a couple of months to one month ago. I believe H is still in a withdrawal phase. I have ordered the book,"Surviving an Affair" and will read tuite d'suite. I know that H loves me, can sometimes tell he is in such despair, but I feel like my best friend is a stranger. How long can this last? I am so utterly low, and I don't see an UP in sight? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Temp,
get this post over to General Questions II, there are many veterans of this battle that will have sage advice and tons of support for you. You seem to have a very winnable battle here to save your marriage. It wont be easy, but it can be made easier by knowing thine enemy and knowing what exactly is going on.

WCNT

Thank you WCNT, will do! It's nice just to see a response to a question or a need, as that doesn't happen much in my life right now.

Hey Temp,
I responded to you on your thread on GQII
Glad