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Should I have any expectations after exposure to OW's H?
#1655034 05/09/06 09:38 PM
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I exposed my DWH & OW's affair to OW's H yesterday.

Called him at work, asked to meet so that I could give him copies of the emails I found and asked that we share information (I was hoping for cell phone bills showing the calls). He seemed stunned, said he knew my DWH and his W were "close". ("Close"? and he wasn't concerned???) He took my phone number and that was that.

I had hoped for a little more. By now, he's probably confronted her. I wonder if she's told him that I'm the crazy jealous wife of her "friend".

I'm not sure what I really should have been expecting. For all of you who have been there, what happens next? Should I mail copies of the emails to him? Or not do anything?
Re: Should I have any expectations after exposure to OW's H?
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Email copies. Tell him about this site.

And yes, she will try the crazy jealous wife story.
Re: Should I have any expectations after exposure to OW's H?
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Yes, mail him copies of anything you have if you can be assured the OW wont get them.

Typically what happens is the OP calls the WS and then the WS explodes at the BS. Your H will probably be FURIOUS at you, if you can even believe that. But it is often true, so just brace yourself and be prepared.

If he explodes at you, simply tell him you will do what it takes to save your marriage and end his affair. Dont try to reason with him and don't allow him to bait you into a fight. Just come here and let us help you.

Good job! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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