2.5 year re-marriage(after 3 years single,25 years married) Saw Phone# on cell bill called met ow same day, she had no idea he was married, (3months new to job)she said she loved him and they talked of marriage. OW single heartbroken from lies. Me heart broken from lies.(interesting, that lies to me when I first met him are the same ones he told her)Adopted no family, (stilll don't know family never met he never ever sees them)He has 2 children 12, 7 live part time with us (two different women 1xw, one girlfriend).I love kids been with me 5 years. Lies are deep, outside of the A, I can't understand this deep of lying about family, history etc. The A ended by her not him yesterday. He came home late and told me that he had a talk with her and they ended the relationship. He is in another building also. he said he is ready to start recovery... OK I said. This morning he called her to say his father died that's why he wasn't at work. She called to say sorry. I called her and she told me she ended it.. because of the lies and she's single and doesn't need ****** in her life. she called as she believed the death lie.She never called our house or had our #.He came hme in a rage that I would invade his privacy and call her as he once again callled her for sympathy she told him to basically ****** off. Now he is pissed at me for calling her when he said he took care of it.(all lies)I am calm and in control but truly wondering what to do.... next please help me, please.PS I was calm and re-assuring that I am not mad than I know how much he must be hurting and just talk to me like friends(we were close until 3weeks ago)so here I am in my room asking for help. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Just a question: were you both single when you started your relationship, or did it start off as an A?

I was single for 2 years living alone, children grown and on own. Started dating, 5 months living together. Found out after living with him, he never traveled he lived with me that he was married and had 2 children. He moved out next day said when the divorce was final we would speak. 6 months later we spoke and developed a new relationship including kids whole family mine and his. 1 year later we married. 2.5 years now married 5 years together. he did the same thing only 2 months into this relationship i found out and confronted. now what.

I'm sorry, you probably don't want to hear this, but it looks like your relationship with him was born out of lies and deceit on his part, the equivalent of building a house on sand and expecting it to last. I think that there's an article on this site somewhere that addresses the very very low probability of such relationships lasting for any significant time.

If it was me, I would cut my losses and move on, but really only you can decide if continuing a M with that man is really worth the heartache and pain that he is causing you.

thank-you, I have been 5 yrs with this man and his children 12,7. I am starting plan A, to enable me to get footing as I can barely put one foot in front of the other, emotionally
physically(thats keeps me going working out) but the big one is financialy I must not lose at 51 second marriage, lost all cuz I walked and didn't care about anything.Lost hudge(homes,cars, retirement etc) taking every pre-caution now.