Stoney - Some good suggestions there - Thanks! I like the idea of hiding stuff (LOL!), esp. the jewelry, and may do that. Also shredding clothes that are gifts. May do that too. (Sorry dear, it was was an accident that your satin jammies got caught in the dryer mechanism and torn tiny shreds!) Recorder in the car, yep. Don't care what it picks up, I'm ready for it (except I think they usually go places in HIS car)<P>used2bcozy - Hmmm. Probably the most expensive she ever got from him was the jade necklace and earrings. She used to wear those EVERY time we went out. Now she wears the silver necklace with the star pendant EVERY time she goes our or we go out together. Doesn't look all that expensive, but she certainly is attached to it. (Since she hangs it on the statue's dinkus along with her wedding and engagement rings, I think she looks at it in the same light.) She may have given him some expensive gifts too, the way we barely scrape by on fairly substantial combined incomes!<P>M4B - I like them too. And, in fact, I've done SOME of this. But I get so discouraged when nothing seems to work, and my W doesn't really respond to me sexually no matter HOW romantic I am! She likes the treatment, sure, but it doesn't seem to make any real difference. That's what's so frustrating!<P>sweetpea - I did think about snipping off the statue's dinkus with a wire-cutter or some such, but think I will go with the condom idea for now!<P>Nellie1 - That is the pits. It's bad enough when OW gives gifts to your H, but your children. I mean, that's really out of bounds and much more hurtful. I feel for you.<P>Samantha - Yeah, I think of all his gifts to her, the statue is probably the one that burns me the most, because I know it makes her think of him in that way every time she looks at it. I did make her take it away once when we were having a fight. I left her a note saying this was a reminded of everything our love life WASN'T and I really didn't want to see it again. I will take your and sweatpea's suggestion about cutting off the little guy's joystick under advisement. I know my W would be royally P.O.'d. Also like your idea of replacing his gifts with ones from me. I think I'm going to work on that one.<P>

I agree, the gifts to the children from the OW are icky.... How do you tell them "No I don't want you to keep that!)? Its like a sick joke!!!<P>cozy

Wex just a thought on the statue why not get another one exactly the same then they can "embrace". Or even get dozens of them if she likes them that much. If they remind her of the OM then as they are embracing it might remind her of what a "bum" he is. She'll also never know which one is his!<P>------------------<BR>It's always darkest before the dawn

awoken - I think I like your suggestion best of all. Now if I can just find a store that carries these little buggers...<P>used2bcozy - Gifts from the OP to spouse's children give the knife another twist (in a long line of many).<P>--Wex

Wex, You should do this....redit check on her, then compare it to the credit cards THAT SHE HAS TOLD YOU ABOUT. You may find a few surprises...Also, go over the last years credit card bills, she has probably bought him gifts, see if there is anything purchased that you can't find...<P>------------------<BR>