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What is the behaviour of someone in withdrawal from OW?
#1655564 05/10/06 10:12 AM
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Hi - I changed my name to half full from iceprincessIII in case you saw previous posts.

Ok - I still suspect my hub is having affair and am in investigation stage. I am also reading HN/HN for parents and trying to work on myself.

What precedes Plan A while you are uncovering the truth? I read how if I start meeting the needs I should have, and he is still getting needs met by the potential OW - then that creates a cake eater.

Also - he may be going through withdrawal symptoms from her, and not ready to receive affection from me.

How do I act? I am trying to be nice, and do nice things - but I don't want to light the world on fire with romance and affection and create a cake eater - or shower those things on someone who is not ready to receive them.

What is the behavior of someone in withdrawal from OW??
Re: What is the behaviour of someone in withdrawal from OW?
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Plan A is for you not the WS. Ws' don't appreciate anything decent. They only like to give hurt and pain. In fact they can't exist without hurting the BS and family.

So there is no 'pre plan A' option. Ignorance, shock, frustration, betrayal and denial are what make up most pre plan A paths.

Work on your self improvements 4 u. Identify your real boundaries. Secure your finances. Create a personal support group (family, friends, relatives, children, co-workers, hobbies, pets, neighbors, doctor, day care, school, MB, MC, etc.).

Read Surviving an Affair & Love must be tough. Not sure what stage your WS is at but it is best t/b prepared.

Call Steve H @ MB for a plan.

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