that's our story - is there any chance a marriage can survive these traumas?

Yes Lisa, there is hope...but it will take committment on both of your parts and a lot of work. Don't expect it to be an easy ride, but if it works and the M is saved, you will have been rewarded in many ways and if it doesn't, at least you can say that you gave it all the opportunity that you could.

Something that I have found interested through about 5 grand of IC is that there are many similarities between each of these types of problems. I have read many really sad situations on this site and have endured my own. One thing that I can probably say as a fact is that no matter how bad your situation is, there is probably someone here who's own sitch is even worse. I have seen some M turned around that I could have never even imagined had a chance.

Post your story, be open to the advice of many of the long timers on this site and keep your chin up even when you continue to get beat down. In the end, you may or may not save your marriage, but you will be a better person (and partner/spouse) regardless of the outcome.

The alcoholism must be resolved before the marriage can be helped.

What To Do With an Alcoholic Spouse: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5048a_qa.html