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I have wished since D Day I could understand what my FWW was saying. Over time I have realized that everything she has said everyone else has heard. Maybe we can post the true definitions of WS speak. For example:
What FWW said- I don't remember everything that happened.
True meaning- I don't remember what I have told you about my A so I am afraid to say anything else or you might catch me in another lie.
What have you heard and what is the real definition.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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"I need some space to think.."
Translation: I need you GONE so I can carry on my affair in PEACE!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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"How dare you snoop on me????"
Translation: How dare you CATCH ME!!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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She meant nothing to me.
Translation: She meant everything to me till she dumped me.
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Heh, I'd take that one further aptiva.
She meant nothing to me..but you meant even less.
Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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I don't know what I was thinking.
I wasn't thinking about you or anybody else except myself and it felt damn good.
BS 38
FWW 35
D Day 10/03
Recovery started 11/06
3 boys 12, 8 and a new baby
When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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I don't remember.
I totally remember but I don't want you to know b/c it is that bad!!
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I lied b/c I didn't want to hurt you (post A).
I lied b/c it wouldn't help me at all.
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After finding more truth post A:
I left out the small details b/c I didn't think they would make any difference.
I left out the small details b/c they really weren't small at all, they were HUGE and I didn't think you would ever find out!
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I could go on and on......just read my signature line......
--Sarah
BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
Divorced - finalized 7/07
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This makes me sad because I could go on and on too but I don't have the energy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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NC (no contact) = No contact that your spouse finds out about
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Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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OMG I love it...
I have heard everyone of those. And lots more.
You can be hateful...
...translation==I would be hateful to you if you did this to me.
I am not planning anything.
...translation==I am not planning anything that is good for the marriage and I don't want you to know anything about my plans.
Loni
BW (me)46, XH 46, OW 42 (former friend)
DS26, DD23, DS21, SS17, SS27
EA since 2/04? PA?
He filed for divorce 3/8/06.
OW divorce final 3/10/06.
He left 3/13/06, "to think"
Gave me letter from lawyer on 3/17/06.
Divorce final 9/1/2006.
Happily remarried to new H 6/7/08
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it makes me mad you DON'T TRUST ME...(xws)
translation: It's hard to carry this affair with your darn prying eyes!
me:37 BS; s:7;
xh:38; OW:26;eloped w/OW 1 wk after D: 12/29/03. OC born 3/17/04. Happy! Blessed to be the mother of a wonderful son..great profession..Life's good!
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