been married for 13 years have a boy 7 and a girl 6.
Affair is been going in since last DEC.
foud out 6 weeks ago wife admits it about 3 weeks ago
trying plan A.

she said doesn't want to lose the friendship and she will
not sleep with him anymore, this is a lie A still on and strong, she is in love with him.
he works for the christian school the kids go to,
I promised not to tell the pastor or the opw.

she will not talk to me she treats me like I'm the guilty
person, accusing me of spying on her and she feels like she is in prison and being treated like a child.

how am I supposed to implement plan A and try to meet her
EN if she wouldn't even let me.
and should I tell her that she is pushing the kids away and yelling at them too much or should I back of.
I need help PLEASE.

Bond - First, I suggest you move this thread to General Questions II - only because there is much more traffic there and you need help.

Listen to what people there tell you. They know what they are doing.

I am no expert, but you should read everything you can on this site, you should get the book Surviving an Affair by Harley ASAP and read it too. I would also suggest "Tough Love" by Dobson.

You need to be snooping very hard to see exactly what is going on - check cell phone records, read email, record home phone etc. Hire a PI if you can.

Most importantly, in my opinion, you should tell everybody under the sun - mainly OMW - tell his W today. I don't care what you promised your W, you should tell OMW ASAP and then go tell his boss at the Christian school. I would suggest you get your evidence togther and go tell them today.

She'll be mad - but so what. I did it about 3 weeks ago and my W is mad. I don't care. At least I think I have NC now.

So, move this thread to GQ II right away and people will give you more advice - they know a lot more than I do.

Sorry you are here.

I agree with 193296

The very FIRST place to expose is to the principal at the school. And I echo 193296 - Post to GQ2

If you promise not to expose then you are enabling your wife's affair. Your obligation is to your marriage and your children. How on earth could you even think of protecting OM? What has he done for you? Oh let me see? Yes, he had sex with your W. That's it. Fry his butt. Get him fired. What business does an adulterer have working in a Christian school anyway? Is this the kind of person we want educating our children?

If your WW is abusing the kids even verbally, get in her face and tell her to stop. My WW did this because of the stress of her A. I shut it down quickly. Don't be afraid of your WW or her anger. Be afraid of doing nothing. That is the quickest way to divorce.