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Torture to be with me??
#1657835 05/11/06 01:43 PM
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WS totally broke it off with the other woman and today is acting like it is torture to be with me. He is grieving this other woman. What about me?? I am the one who is hurting!! Does he not love me or care? How do we get past this? Do they ever come back to reality?
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wounded64 #1657836 05/11/06 01:47 PM
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Strap down and hang on, Wounded. It's gonna be a long ride. If your WH is truely in NC with OW, you can expect 6-8 weeks of turbulance as he goes through withdrawal. Don't expect him to tell you he loves you or any of that jazz. He's foggy.

Put plan A in place. Remember, Plan A is to make YOU happy, not WH. That is a side effect if anything.

You come here and vent. We know you're hurting. We know that pain. You get past this one day at a time. One step at a time. It ain't gonna be easy, but I believe it can be done.

Best wishes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

~~One day at a time is all we're given. Just deal with today and let God have tomorrow.~~ Me = 32 FWH in 1996. Current BH Her = 33 FWW DS 15 DD 11 DS 7 Discovery March 29, 2006 Recovery and proud of it!
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Drexxell #1657837 05/11/06 02:06 PM
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Yeah, he won't be to caring or loving toward you if the NC holds. Don't let your taker get control of you.

Keep snooping if you already are, most WS's don't succeed with NC on the first try.

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